We've only been friends for a year or so and mainly stay in touch on social media/phone calls, don't meet up frequently but speak loads.
He knows I am in a relationship and our contact has always been solely friendship. But recently I've noticed he's started getting very clingy to me - messaging multiple times a day, even when I haven't responded to the previous messages, so sometimes I check and have 10+ messages all about different topics.. also made a really creepy sex related comment recently, attempted to disguise it as a joke (but it wasn't funny at all) it was a bit awkward so I tried to forget about it.
He has also started offloading a lot of emotions on to me - about feeling lonely, wishing he wasn't single, and projecting a lot on to me aswell. I once confided in him when I was having a bit of relationship trouble and wanted advice - at the time he acted like the most supportive friend possible, but a few days later he brought it up again in a nasty way to use against me/put me down. Basically by asking me for my opinion on something, then as soon as I gave him my opinion responding with 'well who are you to give advice on this when Xyz has happened'
More recently, I've had a personal family situation going on, and not a day goes by where he doesn't ask me some kind of intrusive and in appropriate question about it. I've said politely that it is private and I don't wish to discuss, which he literally ignores and minutes later asks another question on the exact same topic.
getting an urge to go completely no contact as I feel like the friendship has become a burden and he's taking a lot of my energy.. Constant questions, very sensitive to any potential criticism and seems a bit insecure which I can emphasise with but aibu to feel it isn't my place to take on all of his emotional baggage when we aren't even particularly close?
He often speaks about not really having any friends or much of a social life so i don't want to make it worse.. But I can see why he doesn't as I've started to dread his inevitable calls/messages.
Feeling a bit pissed off about it but not sure if I'm overreacting?
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Should I go NC with this friend?
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PigmyShrew · 28/03/2017 02:41
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