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Feeling hopeless

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charms4115 · 27/03/2017 20:23

My boyfriend of 11 years is married got me pregnant 3 times had to have 3 abortion. He takes care of me because I'm not working. He rent an apartment for me and pay all my bills. He comes to see me everyday and make love to me everyday before he goes home. I love him but found out that he is married late in our relationship. He is crazy about me and love having sex with me. He doesn't like his wife they sleep in separate rooms, most nights he sleep at my house. I just can't see my life without him in it. Is it wrong to love a married man this much. I need help

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Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 27/03/2017 20:24

I have no words op.
None you would want to hear anyway. .

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TheNaze73 · 27/03/2017 20:36

Just keep waiting, he's bound to leave her

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pocketsaviour · 27/03/2017 20:55

Are you in the UK? Do you have any family or friends to support you here?

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charms4115 · 27/03/2017 21:04

Yes I have family here they are struggling

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TalkingofMichaelAngel0 · 27/03/2017 21:07

Can you find work and Have a coil fitted? And then work on getting away from this man.

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charms4115 · 27/03/2017 21:12

I have a coil fitted. I'm looking a job but don't get any as yet. As soon as I get a job will be able to look after myself and get away from him

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Harree · 27/03/2017 21:26

You don't see a life without him, because you have none without him. But you don't seem to be unhappy with your arrangement apart from maybe feeling that you should feel guilty about being with a married man, but you don't. Did he ask you to have the abortions, or where they your decision?

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charms4115 · 27/03/2017 21:43

He did not want me to do 2 of the abortion. I told him I'm not carry his baby because I did not want any problems. The third abortion I wanted to keep but he went to work in America and did not want me to keep it because he was away. I have a 15 years daughter not for him

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