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Feeling hopeless

(16 Posts)
charms4115 Mon 27-Mar-17 20:23:26

My boyfriend of 11 years is married got me pregnant 3 times had to have 3 abortion. He takes care of me because I'm not working. He rent an apartment for me and pay all my bills. He comes to see me everyday and make love to me everyday before he goes home. I love him but found out that he is married late in our relationship. He is crazy about me and love having sex with me. He doesn't like his wife they sleep in separate rooms, most nights he sleep at my house. I just can't see my life without him in it. Is it wrong to love a married man this much. I need help

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Mon 27-Mar-17 20:24:47

I have no words op.
None you would want to hear anyway. .

TheNaze73 Mon 27-Mar-17 20:36:08

Just keep waiting, he's bound to leave her


pocketsaviour Mon 27-Mar-17 20:55:26

Are you in the UK? Do you have any family or friends to support you here?

charms4115 Mon 27-Mar-17 21:04:39

Yes I have family here they are struggling

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 Mon 27-Mar-17 21:07:31

Can you find work and Have a coil fitted? And then work on getting away from this man.

charms4115 Mon 27-Mar-17 21:12:05

I have a coil fitted. I'm looking a job but don't get any as yet. As soon as I get a job will be able to look after myself and get away from him

Harree Mon 27-Mar-17 21:26:35

You don't see a life without him, because you have none without him. But you don't seem to be unhappy with your arrangement apart from maybe feeling that you should feel guilty about being with a married man, but you don't. Did he ask you to have the abortions, or where they your decision?

charms4115 Mon 27-Mar-17 21:43:21

He did not want me to do 2 of the abortion. I told him I'm not carry his baby because I did not want any problems. The third abortion I wanted to keep but he went to work in America and did not want me to keep it because he was away. I have a 15 years daughter not for him

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 Mon 27-Mar-17 21:46:04

You need help to leave. This isnt a good life.

charms4115 Mon 27-Mar-17 22:05:51

I will as soon as I get a job

SandyY2K Mon 27-Mar-17 22:32:32

If he died tomorrow, who would pay your rent?

charms4115 Mon 27-Mar-17 22:39:30

I have money in the bank

NorksAreMessy Mon 27-Mar-17 22:48:47


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CaoNiMartacus Tue 28-Mar-17 07:38:26

I'm sure threads like this have increased since the UKPunter furore.

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