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When you have no proper friends

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Chamonix1 · 27/03/2017 12:39

Anyone else feel like this?
I'm 23, have a 4 year old. A lot of my "friends" are through one particular "friend" and I get along with them all pretty well, if they all get together i usually get an invite and when we go out have a laugh. A lot of said "friends" have children too, so it's not because I'm a "young mum". That would at least make sense.
I try and be a decent person, I tend to do a bit too much for people and in the past have been used by people because of this.
I don't think I'm overly needy and try and keep in touch with people and show interest.
Yet, I feel I have no friends. Not proper ones.
Just found out I'm expecting baby number 2, suddenly I've thought that I'd have nobody other than 1 of my sisters to ask to be godparent.
My first child has 4 godparents, 1 of them is a friend, that I haven't seen since her blessing (she's now 4 ).
I'm really wondering where I'm going wrong, I honestly don't think I'm that bad and when I go out people seem to enjoy my company but I have no real friends and I can't work out what an earth is wrong with me.
Today plans have fallen through again, and it's become evident that the friend is out with another friend (she messaged me and said she was with x friend so couldn't meet up after all) and they quickly back peddled when I mentioned I thought we were meant to meet up (we often meet up as a 3) but I feel I'm being invited simply not to upset me. I don't want to be that person.
Just clutching at straws that someone can tell me where exactly I got it so wrong.

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UpTownFuck · 27/03/2017 12:49

I don't have much advice but I know how you feel, I'm 22 with a 3 year old and in the same boat, so you're not alone op!

My DH has loads of friend as well so he's often out where my friends have cancelled in the past and now I don't bother.
DH is my best friend I don't mind to much now as I make sure I am always busy!
Congratulations on your pregnancy

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Chamonix1 · 27/03/2017 13:08

"My DH has loads of friend as well so he's often out where my friends have cancelled in the past"

Ouch. Some people literally have no limits.
Sometimes I feel like I'm still at school!

You're right though, my dh is my friend and I do have a lovely mum and sister so should count my blessings really!