Hi all!
Lately I've been reading on Mumsnet and elsewhere that dating multiple people is the new norm and that everyone should be doing it otherwise he/she would miss out on dating opportunities. As someone who got back into the dating game quite recently, a lot of my friends advised me not to focus on one guy and to "keep my options open" and date multiple people.
I just can't understand this mindset. If we are talking about first or second dates then sure, I can see how it makes sense to go out with multiple people. However, once you move past the third/fourth date and even more so if the relationship gets physical, surely some kind of feelings start developing
How do you keep going out with multiple people without feeling dishonest? Even more so when sex is involved (I think many people would find normal to get physical after a third or fourth date). Where do you even find the time and energy to plan dates with multiple people?
I think until 10/15 years ago dating multiple people was not socially acceptable and most people would have found it disrespectful and dishonest. However I am starting to feel like I am naive, old school and deluded because I expect a man not to date other women while he is dating me, regardless of the famous "exclusivity speech".
Please tell me it is not just me! I feel so unfit for the modern dating world
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How is dating multiple people really ok?
nehapea · 27/03/2017 10:46
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