Really need hand holding, together 8 years discovered tonight he's been seing someone else as well for the last two, she found out about me, dumped him and he confessed, said it was only a month but she has since got in touch and filled me in. He's then confessed it was longer. Such an idiot, what the hell do I do? Kicked him out obviously, but can't afford rent on my own, we've got dogs and cats this is such a mess. Explains his reluctance to get married though..
I'm sorry this has happened to you. For now you will be in shock so you need to look after yourself. Well done kicking him out. You will need the head space. Can you afford rent for a 1 bed flat? Do you have family and friends close by?