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Just discovered 2 year affair

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1MrsRabbit Mon 27-Mar-17 02:42:16

Really need hand holding, together 8 years discovered tonight he's been seing someone else as well for the last two, she found out about me, dumped him and he confessed, said it was only a month but she has since got in touch and filled me in. He's then confessed it was longer. Such an idiot, what the hell do I do? Kicked him out obviously, but can't afford rent on my own, we've got dogs and cats this is such a mess. Explains his reluctance to get married though..

Aquamarine1029 Mon 27-Mar-17 02:58:44

I say you're lucky to find this out before you got married. Money issues will work themselves out eventually, but a failed marriage is a nightmare. Keep your chin up and keep moving forward.

RememberToSmile1980 Mon 27-Mar-17 03:11:50

Good that you've kicked him out. It will be hard for you but you need to stay strong and not take the cheating twat back! You deserve better!

tallwivglasses Mon 27-Mar-17 04:02:37

Two years? 😮 - deceiving you, deceiving OW - what a fucking cunt. I could never ever stay in a relationship like that. Imagine 20, 30 year's time. Do you see yourself happy and safe with this guy?

1MrsRabbit Mon 27-Mar-17 04:35:30

Oh no it is definitely over just not sure what to do now, renting the house from his parents with no formal lease. He's been packed off to stay with them

hellsbellsmelons Mon 27-Mar-17 09:21:57

I'm sorry this has happened to you.
For now you will be in shock so you need to look after yourself.
Well done kicking him out. You will need the head space.
Can you afford rent for a 1 bed flat?
Do you have family and friends close by?

Flatbellyfella Mon 27-Mar-17 10:10:49

Move on, don't look back. Stay where you are , see what the parents suggest .

SandyY2K Mon 27-Mar-17 10:34:37

I'm sorry about your situation and the shock you must be in.

What a double life he was leading, deceiving 2 women. It would have carried on if she didn't find out clearly.

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