I don't know if I can do a thread if it's been inspired by reading others? Sorry if I can't.
Just I can't get over what I've been reading.
Back story for me, is abusive childhood, narcissistic parents, which didn't dawn on me until my thirties. Struggled with contact, struggled with low contact. Did everything to fix things, even told them why I was upset, gave them so many chances. Responses were 'you know what she's like' 'how dare you, after all we've done for you' etc.
Very difficult going NC. Turbulent times. Still not great!
Lies being spread about me, and anyone I knew before, turned into flying monkeys.
On another forum site I have seen tonnes of threads about how selfish, self entitled nasty adult children are in my generation, cutting off contact at the drop of a hat. Saying we are a cult. Following a script. Calling anyone and everyone who does one wrong thing, a narcissist.
Mumsnet royally slagged off. Saying mumsnetters are joyfully declaring how happy it makes them to cut the grandchildren off from them, and hurt them. Saying mumsnetters are actively encouraging everyone to go NC if they say something slightly wrong.
Lots of forums talking about how they've done nothing wrong at all. Just been cut off out the blue.
This is not my experience at all on mumsnet. I have found people who have gone through NC or LC able to recognise narcissistic behaviour and advise accordingly. I have never seen, 'MIL turned up 2 seconds late'....'cut her out'
They criticise their children, and speak about them like they are still children and not adults. They say, 'nobody's perfect anyway, ED certainly isn't!'
Also, have never ever seen a woman who's cut off her parents, gloating about it. If anything, they still have problems with the guilt of going NC, even though they should never have been treated like that!!
So, yeah, not sure what I want from this thread. Just a chat really. I am incensed by the lies I guess. But I suppose not surprised. They lie in public, why not on forums?
Just makes me angry that they are blaming their awful awful behaviour on an epidemic cult of adult children who have learnt a new buzz word, narcissism.
No. We've just got access to more information on the internet, and they've been called out on their behaviour.
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Apparently going no contact is an epidemic, and parents are completely innocent
gluteustothemaximus · 26/03/2017 19:16
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