I know the answer is probably yes. I'm just processing. He would put me down in public. He said 'why don't you go out with her then?' to a market trader who liked the same film I did. When we were walking around and I tried to hold his hand, he stuck his arm up in the air so I couldn't and then laughed when I cried. He criticised everything I did. He shouted at me when I dropped something on the floor and started going on about how clumsy I was. Once we were watching a film and I went up to the loo. When I came down he complained and said he was comfy on the sofa and said he'd go up. I went up instead and he watched the rest of the film. He was often sarcastic with me. His humour involved putting me down. He criticised my house constantly. Made a joke about how a woman on TV was so much better looking than I was.
Then we ended up doing a kind of bdsm thing, which I consented to, but the idea was that he'd sleep with other women and then tell me about it to humiliate me. When I used our safe word, he told me off as I wasn't using it for a serious enough situation. He didn't see me for two weeks and then came over at 1 am, drunk, knowing I was up at 6 for work. We had rough, unaffectionate sex and he called me a whore etc. He said that the other women would get his affection and cuddles. It was meant to be part of our sex game but I just felt abused. I messaged him the next day to explain how I felt. He just said 'OK. '
I eventually ended it. But I feel traumatised and I keep having flash backs and dreams of him sexually abusing me.
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