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How long is long enough?

(10 Posts)
Jaym2017 Fri 24-Mar-17 23:12:55

If you find yourself out of a marriage, STBXH left in January, loveless marriage for 6 months and on the rocks around November.. so how long is long enough before seen to be ok to move on? Nothing serious just a friend - with benefits if that phrase still exists?


WatchingFromTheWings Fri 24-Mar-17 23:15:13

As soon as you're comfortable with it I'd say. Life's too short!

zozozoo Fri 24-Mar-17 23:19:19

Yes that ^. Whose opinion are you so concerned about?

Howlongtilldinner Fri 24-Mar-17 23:20:17

Wby are you worrying about being 'seen' to do what's okay? It's nobody else's business except yours. As PP said.. life is too short..

TheNaze73 Sat 25-Mar-17 07:35:48

The next day!

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone.

I wouldn't want a relationship however some adult recreation, would be just what the Dr ordered. Your STBXH will already be doing it. Why shouldn't you?

noego Sat 25-Mar-17 08:32:25

I was dating the very next day. Fuck 'em. If you gonna move on, move now. Why wait.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Sat 25-Mar-17 10:25:23

Exh was asked to leave in July. Had a fling in August. Met now dh in Nov! Nobody knows what lies ahead!! But the future is where you must look not at whats been left behind. . Go for it!!

Belle1102 Sat 25-Mar-17 10:55:25

I'd move on straight away if I wanted to. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me. I started dating my current boyfriend a week after leaving my ex who I was with for several years. I'm very happy now and glad I made the choices I did

floraeasy Sat 25-Mar-17 13:19:00

There is no right time. When you feel you can get into a FWB or other relationship is the right time. Just so long as you feel healed and not too fragile. Don't worry about other people - they can mind their own business!

Jaym2017 Mon 27-Mar-17 22:32:16

Thanks all smile really wasn't sure what's 'ok'. I have 3 daughters and while I won't be bringing anyone home, it was something I had to consider, what is right for them and for me, and how to balance that out.

I have totally moved on in terms of how I feel, no lingering emotions on what could have been or having ex back etc. I hadn't really thought of him out there 'doing it' but I guess it's possible and very likely, no reason not to and he's not home with the kids!

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