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Can stress really affects mens libido?

(12 Posts)
Almondmilk Fri 24-Mar-17 12:35:59

My man isn't in the mood for sex since several months. He says it's because we had fights and stress. He also says that he is being lazy.

LoveMyLittleSuperhero Fri 24-Mar-17 12:40:57

Yes it can affect both mens and womens libidos

TheNaze73 Fri 24-Mar-17 12:44:56

The irony is I think it's the best stress reducer, he could have

VestalVirgin Fri 24-Mar-17 17:57:21

I'd consider it quite normal that he'd not want to jump in bed with you right after a fight. Even if it is not the stress, not wanting to have sex with people you're angry at is normal.

Why do you ask? Do you think he's lying about it? confused

Almondmilk Fri 24-Mar-17 18:12:47

I ask because we aren't constantly fighting we have a lot of laughters and peaceful days...I suspect that he doesn't fancy me enough that's it. VestalVirgin

NotTheFordType Fri 24-Mar-17 21:24:27

Several months seems odd. How long have you been with him? Do you live together, have DCs together?

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 Sat 25-Mar-17 06:28:06

I never understood people saying "make up sex" is the best part of an argument. If I'm pissed off, last thing I want near me is a penis.

Stress and fights don't just put women off, the same goes for men too.

GidgetMems Sat 25-Mar-17 06:49:23

My DP has also gone off sex for the last few months. I suspect it's to do with me being pregnant. It's very hurtful that he's withdrawn all physical contact and it's pushing me away. I understand how you feel. He says it's due to stress and just not wanting to, but won't work with me to find other ways of intimacy. We have no intimacy at all.

sandgrown Sat 25-Mar-17 06:55:43

DP on anti depressants and has had little interest for a couple of years. I do think stress can affect libido.

TedEriksen Sat 25-Mar-17 07:50:21

Stress, anxiety, depression, fatigue and good old-fashioned pissed-offness are all libido-killers.

Rattata Sat 25-Mar-17 18:01:30

He also says he is being lazy So he is too lazy to think about meeting your needs - what a charmer! You are having fights - i.e. it is all your fault OP according to him. I would be having a serious talk with this guy.

If he never gets and erection anymore (no morning glory etc) then the cause is likely to be physical. If he just is not in the mood with you then it is psychological. Either should involve a trip to the doctor. You should also explore whether he is withdrawing/thinking of ending the relationship or has developed a porn addiction that means he doesn't want/need sex with you

lokisglowstickofdestiny1 Sat 25-Mar-17 18:04:38

'Being lazy" can also be a sign of depression, that awful feeling you get when you just can't be bothered. Stress and depression can impact anyone's libido.

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