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Relationships

Partner is in love with another woman

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MUTHERFUNKER · 24/03/2017 08:10

I just want to get some advice to see if what I'm feeling is unreasonable.

I started dating a guy in October. It was all going brilliantly until I realised that he still has a pretty intense relationship with his ex wife that left him in July. She moved on and met someone and actually helped my guy to write his dating profile! I've since noticed that they are quite flirty over Twitter. He claims its just a friendship now. Having looked at his Twitter I can see that he was writing stuff last June that suggested he regretted them splitting up. Basically he was a bit of a

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HecateAntaia · 24/03/2017 08:14

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TheNaze73 · 24/03/2017 08:16

Has it happened since you've been together?

3 months after his wife left, is no time at all, he doesn't sound ready for anything else

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MUTHERFUNKER · 24/03/2017 08:17

She has a 20 year old that he adopted when their son was small. So effectively their son is an adult.

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MUTHERFUNKER · 24/03/2017 08:18

I was thinking the same thing actually and that he doesn't have enough self awareness or self respect to realise.

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MUTHERFUNKER · 24/03/2017 08:19

It's happening constantly and he even denies it! When I check Twitter I can see they are openly messaging and being flirty. I guess 3 months isn't very long is it.

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HecateAntaia · 24/03/2017 08:21

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MUTHERFUNKER · 24/03/2017 08:23

I think you're right, that was the conclusion I was coming to but I wanted to get someone else's opinion as I am of course emotionally invested, but thankfully not completely stupid.

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OrangeStar · 24/03/2017 11:41

regardless of the disloyalty to you which is horrible, he sounds a bit of a tool fool, tbh. really not worth your time.

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SandyY2K · 25/03/2017 07:07

I'd leave them to it and end it.

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FriendofBill · 25/03/2017 07:10

the longer you leave it the harder it will get.
Make the break today.

This is not what you want.

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Gallavich · 25/03/2017 07:12

He was looking for a wife substitute when he met you. Lots of men rush right into new relationships after a break up (there is research into it) I'm guessing because they are used to having their emotional needs met and can't fathom not having a woman around to do it.

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NotTheFordType · 25/03/2017 19:08

You are definitely rebound girl, sorry. :(

I would (gently) let this one go and get back out there looking for someone who's actually emotionally available!