I have been renting a house since the end of January and was originally told the house was available until mid May and possibly longer. My mom (who is horrible to me, very wealthy and all she cares about is money, has an arrogance about her etc) goes to a massage therapist and the massage therapist's parents own a house nearby that sits empty for most of the year. So I rent this house. There is no paperwork in place, so there is nothing legally binding. The massage therapist's parents let her pocket the money. It is on the pricey side.
Well, to put it in the nicest way possible, this woman is damn annoying. I get a text from her at least once a week to "check in" on me. I pay her in full each month, yet I feel like I'm being monitored. Her dad still gets mail here, so she comes by every week checking the mailbox unannounced. Sometimes a car I don't know will be outside going through the mailbox, which is weird to say the least.
Out of the blue this past Sunday, I got a text saying, "I thought that the house would be available until Mid May, but it's not going to be available in April. My parents want to come down for Easter and have the house. They are staying for 2 weeks. But you're welcome to rent until 13 April." No "sorry for the inconvenience." There was no "Sorry for the short notice"... nothing of the sort. I took a deep breath and replied, "Oh okay, then I need to make other plans soon. Thank you for letting me know."
Then she immediately texted me and said "You and I spoke briefly about cleaning. You said you would hire a cleaning person. If not, I can do it after I do a walk through and we can discuss the price. Usually I charge 100 pounds to clean it. I can come in the morning on the 13th. Thoughts?"
This pissed me off even more. So she wants to profit off of cleaning it herself. At first when I moved in she mentioned a cleaning fee and I thought she meant hiring a cleaning person. She is being pushy.
Well, to make matters worse, I showed my mom the texts. Her and my stepdad said it was wrong how she talked to me and that it wasn't nice at all. I am under unbelievable stress right now and my mental health is really suffering because all this is getting me so stressed out.
I thought maybe for once my mom actually cared. But what did she do today? She had a massage TODAY by this woman - less than a week after this happened. I thought surely she would find another massage therapist. There are literally hundreds of them around here.
What are your thoughts on this whole situation? I feel so upset and like what she did is basically like saying it's okay for someone to treat her daughter like this. My mom has always treated me bad. She was abusive to me growing up. She is rich and doesn't have to work because my stepdad. She could go to any other massage therapist. She spends all day doing whatever she wants and spending money. She never says one nice thing to me. I always feel like shit about myself around her. I don't normally live in this area and have for less than a year. Right now I want to get as far away from here as possible come 13 April. I am so hurt. I feel discarded by everyone right now. I was just money to this person and I feel I haven't even been treated like a human being... I'm being forced to move out and even my own mother doesn't seem to understand what this is doing to me. Should I say something? Would you be mad? She also added, " I didn't say anything and neither did she" (about the whole rental situation). Like that makes it better or okay.
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elephantcuddles · 24/03/2017 00:29
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