My and my OH (we're both women) are going to split up sometime soon. We have 3 DC. She's still hoping we're going to survive but I know it's over. I can't handle any more rows and I'm exhausted from 2 years of upset. For practical reasons we can't actually split right now (DD1 is very vulnerable right now, so we have to put her first for several months, and my DPs are living with us, for at least another month), so I'm trying to use these few weeks to decide what I really want the outcome to be when we do finally discuss splitting up. It won't be the first time we've had the discussion, we've been all round the houses with it all, but this time it will be for real.
So, I've been thinking that the best thing for the DC will be if they can stay in their own home. My OH and me will definitely want to share care equally. So, two options I've been considering are that the DC stay in the house and we move in and out on a rota. Or we all live together but in separate rooms, and still have a rota, so we're not together too often.
Has anyone tried either of these? Am I in cloud cuckoo land? I really want to avoid the DC moving from house to house every few days option if at all possible. It seems so unfair that they would have to suffer because their parents are too shit at sorting out their differences.
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Francks · 23/03/2017 23:04
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