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What's the worst thing a DH/DP has ever said to you?

(257 Posts)
Norky1975 Thu 23-Mar-17 13:32:37

Mine include
"Are you doing any ironing this week?"

Offred Thu 23-Mar-17 14:26:03

Telling me I was crazy and paranoid because I had been abused in the past when I accused him (correctly) of cheating.

Telling me I make him abuse me because I am so crazy, jealous and unreasonable.

Offred Thu 23-Mar-17 14:28:12

Telling me I supported dictatorships because I said I thought that wars to impose democracy on poor countries with unstable government/economies don't work.

Offred Thu 23-Mar-17 14:30:02

Telling me all his friends agree I am crazy and unreasonable.

That I bought him a dog because I am controlling and manipulative and was trying to make him spend time with me.

Justmuddlingalong Thu 23-Mar-17 14:34:12

ExDH, at visiting time on the post natal ward, ‘Thank Christ you'll be home tomorrow. I've ran out of clean towels'. Prick.

fallenempires Thu 23-Mar-17 14:39:18

'Have you just been sat on your arse all day?' (Said whilst checking shelving for dust) Me at home with 3 under 5's(his children) including a newborn ebf.
And no there is no (D)H in his case more an XH which I prefer,although DH can also mean DickHead grin

redannie118 Thu 23-Mar-17 14:48:48

When I found out he was having a affair. Told me he wasn't and that the unexplained trips were too the doctor- he had a brain tumour and I didn't care. When I demanded to come to the doctor with him he admitted it was a lie (he had a harmless cyst that he tried to convince me was the tumour)and then changed his tune to it was all my fault as I was so miserable all the time. I had a ten week old newborn, we had both almost died during birth and I had horrific PTSD and PND. He did such a good job on me it took me another 11 years to throw him out

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Thu 23-Mar-17 14:51:02

Told me he had done no such thing the morning after he had raped me 2 weeks pp.
Left him ten years ago.

mummylila Thu 23-Mar-17 15:06:01

My ex said that I couldn't even give birth properly once when we were arguing, our daughters heart crashed when I was being numbed for a section and I had to be put to sleep for it, he was sent out of the theatre crying and said that less than a month later

ems137 Thu 23-Mar-17 15:09:19

That he was hoping I'd lose the baby I was pregnant with like I had the others.

That his ex was better than me

Desmondo2016 Thu 23-Mar-17 15:16:42

My ex once told me he probably wouldn't cry if he had to go to my funeral. He's said far worse to me since being my ex tho smile

jeaux90 Thu 23-Mar-17 15:24:03

My ex said too many cretinous things to write about.

Although one that stuck was he called me a gold digger once (I was earning way more money than him so I think his pea brain must have misunderstood the definition)

He was a narc

fallenempires Thu 23-Mar-17 15:26:52

Wow some chilling posts here.

hellsbellsmelons Thu 23-Mar-17 15:27:27

When asking why he didn't want sex with me very often 'well you have put on a bit of weight lately'
Found out very soon after it was because he was a porn addict who wanked all the time.
He then went on to chase 2 other women both shorter and fatter than I've ever been!

CowardyCat Thu 23-Mar-17 15:27:52

have so many but here's my personal fave...

when he was boozed up, whilst i was 7 months pregnant, said he'd throw himself over the banister down the stairs, while pretending to do so.. so i could 'have another man's life on my conscience'.. ... (my previous ex DP committed suicide)

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Thu 23-Mar-17 15:30:39

"We can leave it for now. You can have an abortion."

My morning sickness was bothering him and he just "needed to get away from all of the vomiting".

Poor delicate little man.

Dropped him like a hot potato. DS and I were fine on our own.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Thu 23-Mar-17 15:34:31

Oh, yes!

And I didn't give birth properly because I'd had an epidural (after 44 hours of labour).

Whenever the pain of labour came up (by someone else, I never dared mention it) and I agreed with them how bad it was he always scoffed, "But you had an epidural!" at me.

He never forgave me for that. He really wanted a natural birth.

AllllGooone Thu 23-Mar-17 15:36:44

Ex I hope king?

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Thu 23-Mar-17 15:38:38

Fuck, yes!!

He's long gone.

No one liked him. Even my cat shat on my wedding dress.

NotOneThingButAnother Thu 23-Mar-17 15:44:08

I was sitting on the bed trying unsuccessfully to bf DD2, bleeding nipples, crying, whilst he lay on the bed watching and wanking next to me. He said "You should be happy! You've got what every woman wants, baby at your breast and husband at your side". sad

I'll have to name change now, so ashamed. Never told anyone that.

GhettoFabulous Thu 23-Mar-17 15:45:04

His parting shot to me was that I better spend the rest of my life looking over my shoulder as I wouldn't want anything to spoil my looks.

SwearyGodmother Thu 23-Mar-17 15:45:05

"You're not normal, and everyone agrees with me" when I was very upset over being bullied at work.

"Just to piss you off" a standard response to asking why he had/hadn't done something.

Happily an ex.

Munchkin1412 Thu 23-Mar-17 15:46:32

Ooh my first boyfriend said I was going to hell because I didn't believe in god. Think that was definitely the worst.

yummytummy Thu 23-Mar-17 15:48:54

"Get your ugly face out if my face"

"You're fat"

"I don't have to talk to a shit head like you"

"As if anyone will ever go out with you with two kids you will never find a man like me"

These were some of the milder ones


gluteustothemaximus Thu 23-Mar-17 15:51:32

Oh Lord, how much time have you got?


Breastfeeding DS - "you're such a selfish bitch, you're stopping me bonding with the baby, my sister says you're doing it on purpose just to spite me"

Violently ill with vomiting and diarrhoea (whilst breastfeeding too) - "for god's sake, talk about controlling (when I asked him to stay as I was crawling around ill), I NEED to go out."

Another time, ill in bed with flu. Comes raging into the room holding a creased shirt "why the fuck is my shirt creased. I have to go to work!!" (and yes, I got up to iron it)

After being trapped inside for ages, I started to venture out. One saturday morning, off to the shops he yells "you can't go out, the kitchen is a shit tip!! Who's going to clean it if you're out!!'

After finding a text from another woman on his phone "you nosey bitch. I can't trust you anymore. That's it!"

I had really bad halitosis at one point, and lots of throat issues "god, you're breath could kill at 20 paces, jesus"

3am when went into labour "you're fucking joking. What NOW?? I've only just gone to BED!!"

God, I think there's a million more.

Current DH. Worst thing he's ever said?

Totally wracked my brains on this one, and haven't come up with anything. That has to be a good sign smile

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