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If you've been assaulted how can you prove it was him

(53 Posts)
Gingerbreadlass Wed 22-Mar-17 23:44:57

Husband assaulted me tonight. I bled on my pillow but he stripped it. He tried to lock me in the house but I managed to squeeze through a window. No neighbour answered my call and didn't want to go into the local pub in my nightgown. I am hesitant to call the police because of SS and what it entails, I'm caught in that middle class fucking hook. What do I do. He now says I have no proof.

ShootFruit Wed 22-Mar-17 23:47:13

Ring the police, did you take your mobile with you? Do you have dc in the house?

MummySparkle Wed 22-Mar-17 23:47:37

Gingerbread I think you have to call the police sweetie. Do you have any bruises on you? They will believe you, proof or otherwise.

What is your concern with SS? I have had involvement with them and they were really lovely

LawrenceSMarlow Wed 22-Mar-17 23:48:03

Where are you now? Please go to the police.

As far as proof goes, they may be able to establish that from your injuries, but more importantly, they will help keep you safe now.

Gingerbreadlass Wed 22-Mar-17 23:49:14

He took my phone. No neighbour answered and I was barefoot. He took my phone but now has said he never did

Gingerbreadlass Wed 22-Mar-17 23:50:03

It's going to be a he said she said. He grabbed me on my neck and throttled me,wrestled me to the floor and pulled my hair while holding my mouth shut

Gingerbreadlass Wed 22-Mar-17 23:50:16

Lots of red marks but no black eye

Gingerbreadlass Wed 22-Mar-17 23:51:00

He's gone upstairs. I told him to pack up but no sign of him

jennieflower Wed 22-Mar-17 23:51:27

Please call the police now.

Gingerbreadlass Wed 22-Mar-17 23:51:44


debbs77 Wed 22-Mar-17 23:52:08

You won't need proof. Call the police please, now, before this escalates. He needs removing from your home

DancingLedge Wed 22-Mar-17 23:54:56

Tried to throttle you? Leave now /police now ,while you still can

LawrenceSMarlow Wed 22-Mar-17 23:55:30

Call the police. If you don't have a phone, can you get to any shops or restaurants that are open?

Gingerbreadlass Wed 22-Mar-17 23:55:41

He says I attacked him with a knife. Which is not true

Gingerbreadlass Wed 22-Mar-17 23:55:54

I don't think I can prove my innocence

Gingerbreadlass Wed 22-Mar-17 23:56:19

He's packing his stuff and he's leaving

Gingerbreadlass Wed 22-Mar-17 23:56:39

I don't dare call them because I can't prove abything

jennieflower Wed 22-Mar-17 23:57:35

Please, call the police, it doesn't matter what proof you feel you may or may not have, just concentrate on getting you and your family safe now

jennieflower Wed 22-Mar-17 23:59:37

Where are your children?

Klaphat Thu 23-Mar-17 00:06:47

Do you think you'd have to prove you'd been mugged or assaulted in a dark street if you called the police about that? People don't generally call the police to report random shit that didn't happen to them. You need to report what has happened, not prove it. That is not your job.

LawrenceSMarlow Thu 23-Mar-17 00:07:11

Gingerbreadlass are you safe?

octoberfarm Thu 23-Mar-17 00:07:30

Sweetheart, please, please call the police. They have people who handle domestic violence and are well acquainted with how abusers work. Those marks on your knees are proof. Even if you wait until he leaves, please call them. This is so important, things can't go on like this.

bibbetybobbetybooo Thu 23-Mar-17 00:09:07

Call the police, honey. Really hope you're safe

Gingerbreadlass Thu 23-Mar-17 00:11:52

I'm at home and he's just left. Kids are asleep upstairs.

Gingerbreadlass Thu 23-Mar-17 00:12:18

I don't dare call the police. I need to call my lawyer tomorrow

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