So to keep the background short and simplified nearly two years ago my ex had an affair and left me and my kids (boy 6 months old and girl 4 years old at the time) and moved 100 miles away to be back where she comes from with this other man (her far older step cousin). I loved her so much and would have forgiven her anything but for her she did not want that life with me and the kids. A lot has happened since then. I have had to re-evaluate life and my perception on the world and relationships have changed massively. I also maybe understand my ex better than ever now. It has been a horrible ride but an enlightening one too. Turns out she has played a lot of emotional mind games over the years and the way in which she did things hurt me a lot. I have forgiven her and we are friends now. I think we are doing the best by the kids considering the situation.
For her things have turned out poorly (maybe Karma). The other man was a horrible waste of space and just totally used her and took advantage of her. She is now alone and has little. Like I said we are now friends and we chatted when she was down for my sons 2nd birthday the other day. Later she text me and apologised for everything she's done. Not once has she ever apologised for all she has put me and the kids though before. To be honest that meant a lot to me for her to actually admit what she has done. She then hinted that she thinks her actions were down to depression/possible Postnatal depression. She then went on further to say she still had feelings for me but she understands if its too late for me.
Today I got a letter though to say the Decree Absolute is complete. I have done so well but to be honest this coming though mixed with what she said to me last has hit me. I am having a bit of an emotional wobble right now its fair to say.
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Its offically over and wobbly agian
1DAD2KIDS · 22/03/2017 13:25
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