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What do you miss about your ex? (Lighthearted-ish)

(102 Posts)
OhBlissOhJoy Tue 21-Mar-17 20:40:08

I miss his strength. I've had to ask more favours from friends than I am comfortable with and pay people to move heavy stuff around. It makes me feel like a fragile little woman and I hate it.
I miss him doing odd jobs around the home (see above). Although most the stuff that needs doing now he should have done when we were together and didn't.
I miss sharing expenses and not having to worry about whether I can afford the mortgage and bills.
That's not lighthearted is it? It was meant to be.

justdontevenfuckingstart Tue 21-Mar-17 20:41:40

His parents were from St Vincent. Oh the dumplings and bakes and curry goat........

JK1773 Tue 21-Mar-17 20:43:19

Cleaning my car ... that's about it confused

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Tue 21-Mar-17 20:43:51

Naff all. grin

vaginasuprise Tue 21-Mar-17 20:44:53

Nothing actually. Not one thing. I can do everything I need doing.

MrTCakes Tue 21-Mar-17 20:45:19

Putting the bins out.

Goforit2017 Tue 21-Mar-17 20:45:29

Taking my car for an mot
Putting batteries in stuff at Christmas
Emptying the Hoover

TheCakes Tue 21-Mar-17 20:47:09

Laughs and deep and meaningful conversations over a bottle of wine. Don't get me wrong, I'm happily settled with DH but those were the good times with my ex.

Marmalade85 Tue 21-Mar-17 20:58:32

DIY. Have no patience for it so I have lots of things in parts that haven't been put together

jeaux90 Tue 21-Mar-17 20:59:39

Chuff all

TreeTop7 Tue 21-Mar-17 21:04:35

My stbxh is very technical/practical. He used to sort out the TVs, problems with Sky, laptop, plumbing etc. I'm inept like that, although I'm good with money and very organised.

We have a decent relationship and he'd be happy to help - he's here regularly to collect DCs - but I don't really want to ask. Partly pride, partly because seeing him do "house" stuff could feel painful.

Anniegetyourgun Tue 21-Mar-17 21:08:56

XH was good at fixing stuff. Nowadays I have to get a man in at vast expense to do all those practical jobs I suck at. Mind you, I made the mistake one time of saying in his hearing that he was good at fixing things and he went into a silently suffused rage for three days. Eventually he managed to choke out that I had told the DC that fixing things was all he was good for hmm

On second thoughts, getting a man in at vast expense is worth every penny...

BobbinThreadbare123 Tue 21-Mar-17 21:11:20

Absolutely nowt. He was a mean, sulky, tight arsed git. He was very tall though (top shelves etc no probs). I bought a step ladder.

MadameCholetsDirtySecret Tue 21-Mar-17 21:12:39

Nothing at all

ComtesseDeSpair Tue 21-Mar-17 21:25:00

I miss his family. I am still technically in touch with ex-SIL and MIL and it was never suggested that I shouldn't be; I suppose communication has lapsed more from my side, as when ex eventually meets somebody else I don't want SIL and MIL to feel awkward about their loyalties.

I also miss his easy company and laughter.

I don't miss any of those things more, though, than I enjoy the relief of never having to check up on his whereabouts or wonder whether he is where he said he was or with who he said he was with.

oldfatandtired1 Tue 21-Mar-17 21:26:59

His height. I now have to stand on a box to change a lightbulb.

OhBlissOhJoy Tue 21-Mar-17 21:28:26

I bought a step ladder.
One of my first investments.

TastyTub Tue 21-Mar-17 21:28:52

Not one single tiny thing

HermioneJeanGranger Tue 21-Mar-17 21:31:49

Bugger all!

DontFeedTheTrolls Tue 21-Mar-17 21:34:42

I could list a million things I don't miss. He was a complete and utter knobhead. I upgraded to a far superior and younger model grin

annandale Tue 21-Mar-17 21:37:21

His arse blush his buttocks were so peachy I used to draw them.

His speed of processing. DH is intelligent and thoughtful (and kind and sexy and lots of lovely things) but XH thought at the speed of light and sometimes just got things with no more than a look. He would ring me and our conversations would be a few words but we'd get so much sorted so fast. I have to consciously slow down for DH.

His sense of humour, sometimes. We had a lot of in-jokes which I still miss.

Violetcharlotte Tue 21-Mar-17 21:37:43

Absolutely nothing!

annandale Tue 21-Mar-17 21:40:09

Btw it's taken 16 years to be able to miss those things without feeling sick with relief that I never have to see him again.

NewtScamandersNaughtyNiffler Tue 21-Mar-17 21:42:21

Most recent ex - Nothing. Especially as he just phoned me up and told me how it's all my fault we broke up and I'll never find a man who will 'take on' me and my kids. I'd rather be single until i die than put up with control and abuse again.

Older ex, father of my dc - I miss how happy we were when the boys were babies. I miss how he used to sing funny songs to them.

SpunBodgeSquarepants Tue 21-Mar-17 21:46:08

Like TheCakes, deep and meaningful conversations over a drink. When he'd had a few he would always bring up our first date and tell me how beautiful and perfect I was.
He was also very good at cooking bacon perfectly.

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