Just looking for some opinions please.
My partner is really sick, he's back and forth to hospital appointments with a potentially serious life changing condition. I want to take him to these appointments but his mother won't allow it. She insists she has to take him. I appreciate she's concerned, she's his mother, she wouldn't be much of a mother if she wasn't concerned. But I'd like to be there for too. I love him, I want to be there for him, to support him. She says I'm not allowed.
She doesn't consider us a proper couple because we're not married. We live together and have been in a relationship for over 7 years, but this counts for nothing in her eyes, all because I don't have a ring on my finger.
Do I have a right to take my partner to hospital appointments? Or should I step aside because I'm not his wife? Does she get priority over me?
My partner says he never wants to get married, which I accepted a long time ago. However, since he's been having medical problems I'm concerned that if it's serious and he needs care she'll insist he moves back in with her (he listens to everything she says, won't take much for her to persuade him) and I'll rarely see him, I was never welcome in her home when we both lived with our parents. Which will inevitably end up with us breaking up.
Is it easier to cut ties and end the relationship now? I don't want to leave my partner but I really can't face a life where I'm not allowed to be there for him just because we're not married. Does she have the right to dictate what I am and am not allowed to do for him? This is really getting to me and making me depressed.
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AIBU? Or is his mother being mean?
emilyk315 · 21/03/2017 16:45
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