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100% many times do you have sex with long term partner/husband in a month

(71 Posts)
SlB09 Mon 20-Mar-17 13:52:42

Doing my own poll!! Answers underneath 😉

RocketQueenP Mon 20-Mar-17 13:55:09

OK I will bite

9 years together, 3 DC from 2 - 11

2 x a month on average. 3 - 4 on a good month -ie if we get a babysitter-- blush

We used to shag like rabbits until the crazy, non sleeping, high maintenance dc3 arrived. I am just touched out and exhausted by bedtime

Happybunny19 Mon 20-Mar-17 13:58:43

22 years together, 3 DC's 10 months - 9 years. Usually every day, unless exhausted or poorly.

JellyWellyKelly Mon 20-Mar-17 14:00:10

We're together 3 years and don't live together so possibly still in a bit of a honeymoon phase.

Have sex most nights we're together so probably 4/5 times a week. I'm sure that'll all change when we have children, I have a DS but he's 4 so no luckily sleepless nights etc.

RocketQueenP Mon 20-Mar-17 14:01:12

Happy bunny envy 22 years together shagging most days shock wtf how

Op why do you ask btw?

justnowords Mon 20-Mar-17 14:01:49

13 years together, 2 kids. In a 'good' month it can be up to 2/3/4 times a week. In a 'bad' month maybe once or twice. We go through equal good and bad months.

justnowords Mon 20-Mar-17 14:02:20

that should read in a bad month maybe once or twice a month.

Factorysettings Mon 20-Mar-17 14:05:08

Married 15 years, 3 kids, 10 x month-ish. I couldn't summon the energy to be at it every day grin

dementedpixie Mon 20-Mar-17 14:05:45

Together for 24 years, 2 kids - once a week normally so 3-4 times a month

Blossomdeary Mon 20-Mar-17 14:05:54

I am intrigued as to why people ask this; and why some ask what is normal. If the two of you are happy with what you do, why would you need to know what others do?

Annesmyth123 Mon 20-Mar-17 14:06:54


What's it matter as long as both partners in the relationship are happy.

SlB09 Mon 20-Mar-17 14:07:13

Every day after 22 years together!! Thats good going!!

RocketQueenP I was curious what people actually do compared to what people say they do and whether this was massively different!

RocketQueenP Mon 20-Mar-17 14:07:37

Now panicking DH and I aren't normal!! You lot are a bunch of prolific shaggers lucky bastards

RocketQueenP Mon 20-Mar-17 14:08:15

Ok fair enough OP just wondered x

GotToGetMyFingerOut Mon 20-Mar-17 14:09:13

Every time there's a thread like this I write the following 'we have no set amount, sometimes it's every day for a period of time, when the kids were little and still breastfeeding or not sleeping through it wasn't very often maybe once a week'

The last thread a few months ago it was about five times a week. Just now for past few weeks it's been about once or twice a week as Dh is working crazy hours and we are both tired. Also struggling with our eldest who is up till same time as us then up ans down sometimes for an hour which means there's no chance.

Annesmyth123 Mon 20-Mar-17 14:09:17

But they're telling you how often they do on this thread so your premise is bunkum

Saltedcaramel2016 Mon 20-Mar-17 14:09:29

Married with 2 children aged 10 and 12.

1 or 2 times a week normally. More if on holiday or something!

justdontevenfuckingstart Mon 20-Mar-17 14:09:55

10 or so a week, we don't mid week cos too knackered it's just a shagathon every weekend. I couldn't do it every night. (kids moved out and it's just us, second marriage)

Isadora2007 Mon 20-Mar-17 14:10:45

Married 9 years. Four children- two teens from previous marriage two younger (7 and 4)
Probably 2-3 times per week. No more than 4 and never less than once.

Adora10 Mon 20-Mar-17 14:12:37

On not again, I deliberately avoid these as they are full of lies!

OP, don't judge by anyone else's standards, go by your own.

insomniaat4am Mon 20-Mar-17 14:13:45

3-5 times a month. 2 kids under 3.

Happybunny19 Mon 20-Mar-17 14:33:34

But you haven't avoided it Adora. Why do you assume it's all lies?

To those asking, I'd love to say we've been at it every night over the whole 22 years, but unfortunately not. We have done it every day for about the past 8 months, since I was sterilized after dc3 was born. I really fancy dp and have my high sex drive back after giving up hormone based contraception.

Adora10 Mon 20-Mar-17 14:36:10

Yes I have avoided saying anything about my sex life and that suits me just fine.

Mostly, it's all exaggeration imo.

Poudrenez Mon 20-Mar-17 14:40:26

18 years together, 0.5 times per month. Surely we're not the only non/hardly ever shaggers?

GraceGrape Mon 20-Mar-17 14:44:09

There must be dozens of these threads archived. The answers on them never seem to reflect what I discuss with my close friends.

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