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Really struggling today, he told me he wants to seperste

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LittleMissUpset Mon 20-Mar-17 10:11:08

Things haven't been right for a while, and while I knew it was inevitable it's still a huge shock.

I suffer from anxiety and depression and am getting assessed for autism this week (great timing!)

He wants a trial separation and asked if I can think of another way to solve it.

I feel sick, I'm already anxious about my assessment and I'm struggling to process this, and I'm fucking terrified to be honest.

He said I can stay in the house, but I'm worried as I only work one day a week, and I struggle with that due to my autism. I'm worried I'm going to fail my kids and that they will blame me and hate me, and about spending time apart as my 9 year old already has separation anxiety.

He said we've both been unhappy for a long time which is true, and we had counseling 2 years ago but that didn't help.

I don't know what I want any more, I just need to write this down to make it more real.

I've met my friend this morning, he only told me today but I need to process this, I didn't know what to say. It sounds like he's done his research about money etc, and over the last week I knew something was coming but I guess I was in denial.

Please tell me I will be ok eventually

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess Mon 20-Mar-17 10:19:01

You WILL be OK. You poor thing, you have a huge amount on your plate right now now. Try to focus on the assessment. His timing is extremely insensitive - could he not have waited until next week?

LittleMissUpset Mon 20-Mar-17 12:17:20

That's what I thought, thanks flowers

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