I've been single for over 3 years. Recently met a really really lovely guy and last night he stayed over. I knew he had to leave early this morning to work, but I'm now feeling really sick and almost disgusted with myself. Cheap I guess. When he left he said he'd message me later, but my self confidence is in tatters and I've got a horrible feeling I won't hear from him again. I've gone from being (finally) happy, to feeling as low as possible. Someone tell me to get a grip and that it'll be alright?
Don't do this to yourself! Good lord, it doesn't matter how gorgeous he is, if after every time you see him (when he's done nothing wrong) you're left "in tatters" and your self esteem through the floor then you need to stop this and work on yourself before you get involved with him, or anyone.
I made it crystal clear to him that I was absolutely NOT in the market for a one night stand, and he said he didn't want that anyway. He has text, but no mention of wanting to see me again at any point
I don't see the problem, keep tempo with the texts & play it by ear. If he's a decent bloke, he'll have plenty of offers & will be checking his options. Just play it by ear & don't sweat it. I don't think you'll get a relentless pursuit here
Goodness me you are beating yourself up after what sounds like a great night. Slap!! You've already heard from him and he's at work, that says a lot. Have a bit more confidence in yourself. If you want to see him again, and it sounds like you do, just ask him, maybe in a couple of days. Take things slowly. I know you've already dtd but you don't have to rush a relationship. If he doesn't want to see you again so be it but you still had a good night
OP flip it round and be a man eating sexual temptress! He obviously likes you, it's his loss if he doesn't want to see you again. Which you don't know you are just guessing! You have you to offer him and that is plenty!!!