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Coping with a separation 2 years later.

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Nelly81 Sat 18-Mar-17 22:07:20

First post .. Not really sure how this works , but here goes. .So I left my husband after a year of marriage in 2014 after he cheated on me. We had been together 10 years have 2 children. He cheated not long after our wedding, I tried to stay and work it out but in the end I felt that I couldn't.
I left him with the view we would work things out after time apart and he agreed, shortly after I left , well 8 weeks after a girl we worked with said she was 8 weeks pregnant to him 😥, to cut a long story short... he got with this girl and 9 months later it turned out that the baby wasn't his. They split for a year and he was with many other girls in this time, but he has since got back with the girl who said she was pregnant to him, I can't understand why he would want anything to do with a Girl who lied about being pregnant to him over his wife and our family.
I don't know what it is but I am really struggling to move on this far down the line. Every time I see him my heart totally breaks. I am heartbroken and feel like I've fallen so far back after trying to move on the past 2 years,
It's all just getting on top of me and I really don't know how to get over it all 😪 xx

TheNaze73 Sat 18-Mar-17 22:28:39

You need to stop obsessing about his love life. How do you know so much? Are you cyber stalking him?
He cheated on you, don't forget that & you deserve better. Don't get hung up on this loser

Nelly81 Sat 18-Mar-17 23:07:25

I know so much because we live in the same area, socialise with the same group of friends. I have blocked him on all social media platforms so that I don't see anything of him and his life.

coffeeandchocolate4 Sat 18-Mar-17 23:19:21

To help you move on (10 years together is a long time and you don't just switch off your emotions, regardless if he cheated, it's not that easy), maybe try counselling to just focus on you and your happiness.

Nelly81 Sun 19-Mar-17 09:02:15

Thank you coffeeandchocolate4, I started seeing a councillor last Tuesday so hoping that will help. I go through times of feeling over it then within days I feel right back to square one x

Figureitout1 Sun 19-Mar-17 09:39:11

Can't offer much advice except to say I am in the same situation and I really feel for you - it's absolutely horrible. Mine has only just started seeing someone else and even though I thought I was over it I am in absolute pieces - I think a part of me thought we would get back together 😔

I just keep reminding myself that he's a loser anyway and that I will find someone who will treat me better.
💐💐💐 for you

Nelly81 Sun 19-Mar-17 10:26:36

Aww I'm so sorry to hear that. I try and remind myself also of how much a loser he is but the heart and the head like to mess all that up and cause a lot of hurt and confusion. although we know what really is for the best it's much harder to see clearly when there's emotions involved and I find that I can't remember the bad days, and all the good ones are what stay in my mind,
Hugs to you and if u want to chat feel free to message me 😘 Xx

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