DH and I have a very loving and close relationship and he is a SUPER dad. We do not have real problems.
But.... we have very different approaches to admin/ sorting things out, and recently we have been clashing in stuff. I don't know which of us is right. I always want to plan in advance and double check things, but he thinks this is controlling.
Eg: we are going to NY soon. We have not been able to afford a foreign holiday since 2009 and DH has never been to the US. So this is a big deal. Therefore I want to make sure everything goes smoothly. I renewed my and DD passports before Xmas. DH wanted to wait to do his as "it only takes a week or so". My attitiude was, the passport office says to allow 6 weeks before you travel, and also of course sometimes things go wrong. So why not do it as early as poss?
Or, when we booked the flights, we booked seats but they could not send us confirmation. We had to ring the airline recently and I said to DH why didn't he just double check our seats? He refused as.he said we had already asked. I thought, but we have nothing written, people make msitakes, and you're on the phone to them anyway! In fact, I figured out how to check our reservation online subsequently and we are sat close to but not next to each other.
Writing this down, I feel like I abu, but I do find DH refusal to check or do things in advance really stressful!
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Am I really hard work - or is DH BU?
JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 18/03/2017 22:03
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