I won't go into the back story but let's just say I am the worst kind of people pleaser. Trying to please everyone, agree with everyone. End up pleasing no one and having people turn against me which is actually my worst fear.
On top of that after abusive childhood I am a doormat (i understand the two probably go hand in hand) and I will do anything to keep the peace and keep other people happy often railroading over my own wishes.
I got a confrontational text this morning from someone and I toyed for a second with responding assertively instead of apologising (for something I didn't know I did,) asking what I can do, flattering etc. But the thought of being assertive and saying what I thought filled me with so much dread. I started out doing it but did a turn around at the end where I apologised because my imagined consequences were too dreadful.
Please give me some encouragement and tell me how people actually react to you when you do stand up for yourself and when you DO get angry and express your feelings.
Do you get more respect?
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As a lifetime people pleaser and doormat please tell me what happens when you start being assertive?
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Periscopepress · 17/03/2017 16:34
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