Hi,
Its been a while since I've been on here but I just think there could be someone out there going through similar to me who may be able to help or advise.
I have a sister who suspects she is Bipolar and has admitted this to me and my other siblings in the last few weeks. Its a relief. She has suffered from great high and lows for last 20 years. She is a great person - funny, sharp, clever, charming and beautiful to boot. Her friends see this side of her and also her anxieties and her truths however they don't experience her verbal abuse, paranoia, self-righteousness, anger and reality. We, her siblings, experience this regularly.
I have seen her through a couple of major lows, one when I managed to get her to a doctor and then a therapist. She has a complete aversion to meds. She sees a therapist right now and I have given her details of a recommended Psych so that she can perhaps get a diagnosis but she really won't consider it at the moment. I can imagine it must be a very scary thing taking the decision to find out whether or not you have a mental illness and then knowing you'll have to manage it forever.
I adore my sister. We were incredibly close growing up and I consider it an achievement that we are all still around to support her considering the abuse we've received over the years (although in her view we don't support her enough). She is impossible to reason with and constantly takes the upper hand. She believes that everything she feels and that happens to her is someone else's fault. This includes us, our mum, her husband and her past boyfriends.
We are patient and calm with her but I finding it increasingly hard to remain so and to take the abuse and passive aggressive messages/emails. I have two children and cannot give as much as she needs from me anymore.
What do I do and who can I talk to preserve my own sanity?
I'm sorry that this sounds awfully one sided. I just don't know how to deal with this current manic episode that she is on.
Thanks so much for any advice xxx
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finecheese · 16/03/2017 13:58
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