Longest time on receiving end of silent treatment??

[ItsOooohSoQuiet]

Halfway through day four.

[IDoAllMyOwnStunts]

That's awful. What triggered it? Is it a common occurrence?

[IDoAllMyOwnStunts]

That's awful. What triggered it? Is it a common occurrence?

[QuiteLikely5]

Have you tried walking out and staying with family/friend or in a hotel?

Trust me he will end his quiet time !!

[Isthisusernamefree]

My dad would go months without speaking to me when I was a teenager. The silent treatment is awful. Then he'd blame me at the end of it for doing nothing to alleviate the situation!

Who is it that's not speaking to you?

[FunnysInLaJardin]

that is awful. I reckon the longest I have had would be about half an hour. Does he just ignore you?

[RockyBird]

A friend of mine's husband gave her 3 months of the silent treatment a few years ago. Amazingly they're still together.

[FunnysInLaJardin]

Oh my dad didn't speak to me much at all between the ages of 13 and 17. He would just walk right past me and ignore me. I laughed at him and made an earing that said Fuck Off in letter blocks to wear at the dinner table!

I meant as an adult.

[ItsOooohSoQuiet]

I asked him to chase something up that I couldn't do (house move related). I don't have the necessary contact details. He just wants to sit and wait to hear. My impatience is stressing him out apparently.

Silent treatment is very occasional and usually ends with him offering me a cuppa. Usually only lasts a couple of hours/2 days.

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

What do you get out of this relationship now?.

Silent treatment is never ever about silence or being silent.

Its another form of emotional abuse designed to place the aggressor in a position of control whilst silencing any attempts of assertion.

[Lottapianos]

I think my parents managed a good 2 months (maybe more) years ago. FUN TIMES

The silent treatment is so damaging and so hurtful. What's going on OP?

[Mehfruittea]

SIL often gives BIL silent treatment and it goes on for weeks. She spoke after 4 days on one occasion only to say their marriage vows!!!

[peaceloveandbiscuits]

Two years with my dad. Recently went two months as well. Never any bloody reason for it, either.

[ItsOooohSoQuiet]

The relationship is perfect otherwise. Just this particular instance is annoying now. and I'm gasping for a cuppa

[specialsubject]

sulks are for toddlers. Have you told him not to be an arse?

[AnyFucker]

Perfect otherwise?

No, it isn't

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

You've already had four days of silence from him and this is likely to be repeated behaviour from him as well.

How can this relationship be perfect otherwise?. Why are you telling yourself that this relationship is otherwise perfect?.

[hellsbellsmelons]

I walked out on someone who did this to me.
It was day 2.
He soon learnt to never to do it again.
And that as grown ups, if we have a problem we talk about it and compromise.
I wouldn't put up with it.
Do you have DC?
How do they cope with the awful atmosphere in the house?

[Maryannesingleton]

A year. And then I left him.

[Adora10]

That's so not normal OP, even 2 days, I'd not put up with that; totally dysfunctional; not the way to solve problems; it's nasty.

[SweetChickadee]

Fuck that. Is he 5? Can't abide sulky adults.

[Lottapianos]

Four days is a hell of a long time to be ignored by someone you are living with. That's a dreadful atmosphere to be living in. No relationship is perfect OP, that's not a realistic goal to aim for, and yours doesn't even sound pleasant never mind 'perfect'. In a healthy relationship, you need to know that you can disagree and argue without being punished for your views

[ItsOooohSoQuiet]

He's fine around the DC, they've not even noticed! The housemove (or not....still waiting on a decision from the bank) is stressing us both out. It's not normally like this. Been waiting over 2 weeks now.

[JessicaEccles]

Ten years and counting. Well I assume he is still sulking... I left after a week


Like everyone else said- how can a relationship - APART from him being a sulky with-holding passive-aggressive bully sitting there with his lip out- be perfect?