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Longest time on receiving end of silent treatment??

(62 Posts)
ItsOooohSoQuiet Thu 16-Mar-17 13:38:54

Halfway through day four. hmm

IDoAllMyOwnStunts Thu 16-Mar-17 13:40:13

That's awful. What triggered it? Is it a common occurrence?

IDoAllMyOwnStunts Thu 16-Mar-17 13:40:23

That's awful. What triggered it? Is it a common occurrence?

QuiteLikely5 Thu 16-Mar-17 13:42:23

Have you tried walking out and staying with family/friend or in a hotel?

Trust me he will end his quiet time !!

Isthisusernamefree Thu 16-Mar-17 13:43:26

My dad would go months without speaking to me when I was a teenager. The silent treatment is awful. Then he'd blame me at the end of it for doing nothing to alleviate the situation!

Who is it that's not speaking to you?

FunnysInLaJardin Thu 16-Mar-17 13:44:02

that is awful. I reckon the longest I have had would be about half an hour. Does he just ignore you?

RockyBird Thu 16-Mar-17 13:44:15

A friend of mine's husband gave her 3 months of the silent treatment a few years ago. Amazingly they're still together.

Shurleyshummishtake Thu 16-Mar-17 13:44:41

Why would you accept that?

FunnysInLaJardin Thu 16-Mar-17 13:46:01

Oh my dad didn't speak to me much at all between the ages of 13 and 17. He would just walk right past me and ignore me. I laughed at him and made an earing that said Fuck Off in letter blocks to wear at the dinner table!

I meant as an adult.

ItsOooohSoQuiet Thu 16-Mar-17 13:46:39

I asked him to chase something up that I couldn't do (house move related). I don't have the necessary contact details. He just wants to sit and wait to hear. My impatience is stressing him out apparently.

Silent treatment is very occasional and usually ends with him offering me a cuppa. Usually only lasts a couple of hours/2 days.

AttilaTheMeerkat Thu 16-Mar-17 13:47:24

What do you get out of this relationship now?.

Silent treatment is never ever about silence or being silent.

Its another form of emotional abuse designed to place the aggressor in a position of control whilst silencing any attempts of assertion.

Lottapianos Thu 16-Mar-17 13:48:12

I think my parents managed a good 2 months (maybe more) years ago. FUN TIMES hmm

The silent treatment is so damaging and so hurtful. What's going on OP?

Mehfruittea Thu 16-Mar-17 13:48:44

SIL often gives BIL silent treatment and it goes on for weeks. She spoke after 4 days on one occasion only to say their marriage vows!!!

peaceloveandbiscuits Thu 16-Mar-17 13:49:21

Two years with my dad. Recently went two months as well. Never any bloody reason for it, either.

ItsOooohSoQuiet Thu 16-Mar-17 13:49:30

The relationship is perfect otherwise. Just this particular instance is annoying now. and I'm gasping for a cuppa grin

specialsubject Thu 16-Mar-17 13:51:07

sulks are for toddlers. Have you told him not to be an arse?

AnyFucker Thu 16-Mar-17 13:51:25

Perfect otherwise?

No, it isn't

AttilaTheMeerkat Thu 16-Mar-17 13:51:36

You've already had four days of silence from him and this is likely to be repeated behaviour from him as well.

How can this relationship be perfect otherwise?. Why are you telling yourself that this relationship is otherwise perfect?.

hellsbellsmelons Thu 16-Mar-17 13:52:27

I walked out on someone who did this to me.
It was day 2.
He soon learnt to never to do it again.
And that as grown ups, if we have a problem we talk about it and compromise.
I wouldn't put up with it.
Do you have DC?
How do they cope with the awful atmosphere in the house?

Maryannesingleton Thu 16-Mar-17 13:53:02

A year. And then I left him.

Shurleyshummishtake Thu 16-Mar-17 13:53:44

Your idea of the perfect relationship must be rather different to mine

That is such a minor disagreement

He sounds like an immature bully

Adora10 Thu 16-Mar-17 13:54:33

That's so not normal OP, even 2 days, I'd not put up with that; totally dysfunctional; not the way to solve problems; it's nasty.

SweetChickadee Thu 16-Mar-17 13:54:54

Fuck that. Is he 5? Can't abide sulky adults.

Lottapianos Thu 16-Mar-17 13:55:31

Four days is a hell of a long time to be ignored by someone you are living with. That's a dreadful atmosphere to be living in. No relationship is perfect OP, that's not a realistic goal to aim for, and yours doesn't even sound pleasant never mind 'perfect'. In a healthy relationship, you need to know that you can disagree and argue without being punished for your views

ItsOooohSoQuiet Thu 16-Mar-17 13:55:42

He's fine around the DC, they've not even noticed! The housemove (or not....still waiting on a decision from the bank) is stressing us both out. It's not normally like this. Been waiting over 2 weeks now.

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