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Contacted by the OW

(9 Posts)
Outedlasttimenamechangeagain Thu 16-Mar-17 08:09:04

Last night my ex called me completely out of the blue - it was my 6th day no contact. We had a brief argument and then nothing.

Within minutes the OW sent me facebook messages asking me to please not post things on Facebook about her as it gives her anxiety (I have done nothing of the sort) I replied with don't contact me but she persisted. I told her everything that had happened, she kept insisting things that happened between my ex and I are nothing to do with her. I asked her how she can think that considering she's the OW?
In an odd turn we left the conversation on good terms with her saying she was going to decide what to do about him.
I told her that's up to her, I'm not involved anymore.
I truly meant that, but now, I want to message him to tell him I've told her everything (I have no doubt however he'll contact me if she does talk to him) I want to know she's going to break up with him (I don't believe she will) and I want him to be panicking. At the same time as all this, I feel at peace.

I wish I'd really driven it home how badly he's treated me but I wasn't in a place to go into too much detail last night.

Has anyone been through a similar thing? I'm so confused right now. I have got
him blocked, he contacted me through skype which I forgot he even had.

Bluntness100 Thu 16-Mar-17 08:11:19

Don't contact him. Leave it where it is. By contacting him you're both escalating it and involving yourself in it. Neither is healthy.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Thu 16-Mar-17 08:11:45

Best plan - leave them to it. Neither of them deserves a moment of your time. He will find out soon enough - and if she keeps him then more fool her.
Just concentrate on yourself and your plans for the future. flowers

TheNaze73 Thu 16-Mar-17 08:13:35

Step back & don't get involved. Just smile from the sidelines.

Outedlasttimenamechangeagain Thu 16-Mar-17 08:27:09

The more I think on it the more I can't get over her audacity, or his.

I will begin no contact again today I've blocked him on Skype now. He's not worth any of my time. Neither of them are.

Outedlasttimenamechangeagain Thu 16-Mar-17 08:39:50

Easier said than done. I'm consumed with the thought of contacting him, I know I won't get anything from it and I'll feel so hurt after.
Likewise, I've realised she's watching my Facebook (now private) and I can't handle that either.

ReggaeShark Thu 16-Mar-17 08:45:12

Block her on FB then.

KateDaniels2 Thu 16-Mar-17 08:47:26

Well, personally, i wouldnt give shit about how my facebook makes her feel.

However, if she is watching your fb surely she knows you havent posted anything about her?

Where has she got this from? From him?

I think he is stirring the pot and wanting drama from you. He wants to get you two fighting over him. Contacting him will play right into his hands.

Outedlasttimenamechangeagain Thu 16-Mar-17 08:50:23

I have now set up privacy settings on facebook, she can't see my Facebook anymore.

I posted a quote and I guess she was looking.

I hadn't considered that he'd told her I've posted anything, entirely because he is now blocked on Facebook.

I wish men like him came with a big neon warning sign.

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