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To chuck water over 'D'P?

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FringyFringe Thu 16-Mar-17 00:26:55

DP went out after work and said he'd be back late. I didn't sleep well last night so went to bed early.

He came in at 10.30pm and woke me up to watch a film with him. I didn't wake up right away, he whipped the bedsheets off me, tickled me then got a cold can from the fridge and put it against my skin repeatedly.

We do wind each other up alot and once I'd got over my initial 'just woken up' grumpiness I did see the funny side. I went to make us something to eat and when I came out of the kitchen the fucker was in bed, zonked.

I've taken the duvet and the pillows off the bed and he still hasn't moved.

WIBU to chuck a glass of water on him? I'm wide awake now after my sleep earlier and for no good reason angry

NancyCarolinesTorch Thu 16-Mar-17 00:29:42

Erm well YANBU if that's the way you play off each other.
If DP came in and woke me for any reason I'd stab him.
Not even joking.

ItchyFoot Thu 16-Mar-17 00:29:45

Do it! Report back.

Macsmurray Thu 16-Mar-17 00:31:43

Don't throw water over him! You'll only get the bed wet.
Put matches between his toes and light them grin

FringyFringe Thu 16-Mar-17 00:31:48

Nancy I don't mind being woken up as such. It was the brutalness of how he woke me and the fact I'm now wide awake and wont be able to get back to sleep for a few hours.

MyKingdomForBrie Thu 16-Mar-17 00:35:32

Ice cubes in a bag, no wet sheets that way.

If you don't have dc, air horn or similar v loud noise?! If my dh had woken me like that I would definitely have sent him to make the food though!

FringyFringe Thu 16-Mar-17 00:48:29

Did it. He's not pleased.

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower Thu 16-Mar-17 00:51:11

Serves him right, the muppet.

AlmostAJillSandwich Thu 16-Mar-17 00:53:11

Yeah he totally deserved that one.

FringyFringe Thu 16-Mar-17 01:04:04

Apparently he's "fed up with me" I should "fuck off" and this warrants pinning me up against the wall by the throat. So much for our wonderful relationship.

MrsTerryPratchett Thu 16-Mar-17 01:07:27

I should "fuck off" and this warrants pinning me up against the wall by the throat. Did he do this or say this?

sobeyondthehills Thu 16-Mar-17 01:07:57

I would be asking him to leave and calling the police.

MingeFog Thu 16-Mar-17 01:10:31

Crikey OP, that reaction is way OTT. Are you safe? Can you call someone?

WishIhadaGEG Thu 16-Mar-17 01:10:55

You OK, OP?

JoeyJoeJoeJuniorShabadu Thu 16-Mar-17 01:11:23

Call the police.

Lynnm63 Thu 16-Mar-17 01:11:27

Did he actually pin you up against the wall by the throats or say I should pin you up against the wall by the throat. If the former you need the police if the latter you need to talk about this tomorrow.

FringyFringe Thu 16-Mar-17 01:13:23

He did this Terry.

I don't know what to do. I left the room and then went back in to put shoes and a jacket on but my DS is here so I don't want to leave him. I'm sitting in the other room.

He has never, ever behaved like this before. Nothing even close. I guess I went too far.

JoeyJoeJoeJuniorShabadu Thu 16-Mar-17 01:14:25

I think you'll find that he went too far.

PussInCoutts Thu 16-Mar-17 01:14:50

what! ! get out now. go to a hotel or trusted relatives or friends and call women's aid ASAP.

MrsTerryPratchett Thu 16-Mar-17 01:14:52

Please call the police, love. He's assaulted you.

You didn't go too far. He did.

PussInCoutts Thu 16-Mar-17 01:16:06

take your ds and leave as fast as the wind.

This is dead serious.

MsPavlichenko Thu 16-Mar-17 01:16:42

He has gone too far. Call the police, they will take him away. Nothing excuses what he did . It is violent abuse.

PussInCoutts Thu 16-Mar-17 01:16:42

yes call the police immediately!!

FringyFringe Thu 16-Mar-17 01:17:18

I have no-one nearby I can call and i can't wake DS in the middle of the night with no money and nowhere to go.

I think he's staying put in the bedroom anyway, I don't feel in any danger as such.

Just earlier today I had posted under my usual name saying how good things were.

WishIhadaGEG Thu 16-Mar-17 01:17:51

he sounds like a selfish and violent fucker. Firstly he woke you in a forceful way disguised as larking about to keep him company and serve him food. Then when you returned in kind he lashed out aggressively.
OP, can you get him to leave or leave yourself and stay with someone while you think about your next steps? Keep yourself safe. Any DCs in the house?

I might be wrong, but sounds like this isn't the first time something like this has happened. OP, you know you need to make some tough decisions now, right?

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