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ConcreteRose27 Wed 15-Mar-17 22:50:06

New here but just wanted to share.
I'm 27 and I currently live with my bf(28) and his great grand.I've been dating this guy for a very long times since I was a teen.I pay most things because my bf got into some trouble and doesn't have a good job right now.I never complain.but the stupidest things make him mad that comes with a relationship. Ex there was no tissue in the bathroom for almost a day.I always put tissue in the bathroom for everyone to use no problem cuz I feel were all in this I stated to my bf that it wasn't any and I should start hiding my things from now on and start being petty.I guess he was angry about this.So were in the car driving a blow comes from him to my face not once but twice...I only stated to him how I felt and I didn't direct anything toward him.but he took it personal and attacked me.the script got totally flipped on me from a simple conversation as adults now I'm feeling like I'm the one to blame....

DuggeeHugs Wed 15-Mar-17 22:56:10

flowers this must be shocking for you, but you are not to blame

He's physically assaulted you - if you feel you can you need to report him to the police. You also need to contact Women's Aid for support in getting away from this man.

No disagreement makes it acceptable for him to hit you and you are definitely not to blame

DailyMailDontStealMyThread Wed 15-Mar-17 22:56:43

He chose to hit you.

For what ever reason, he chose to hit you and turn into an abusive partner.

You now get to choose whether you stay or go.

If you stay, you are letting him know his choice is ok with you.

BusyHomemaker Wed 15-Mar-17 22:58:29

Is there anyone you could stay with for a few nights? In order to gain some space and clear your head? Also and crucially, for your own physical and emotional safety.

ConcreteRose27 Wed 15-Mar-17 23:24:11

Trying to find someone I could maybe stay with for a few mom won't even hear me out she slams the door right in my face when I have issues and my dad is having trouble its just an awful space.

springydaffs Thu 16-Mar-17 00:42:23

Op, call Women's Aid. They won't slam the door in your face. They will listen support and advise you if you want advise. They won't pressure you, you don't even have to give them your name if you don't want to.

Your partner is abusing you. Sadly, abuse gets worse. Women's Aid will recommend the Freedom Programme - do Google it and find a course near you Xx

SparklyMagpie Thu 16-Mar-17 05:55:04

Phone women's aid OP! How awful for you!

Thattimeofyearagain Thu 16-Mar-17 05:58:20

Are you in the Uk?

hellsbellsmelons Thu 16-Mar-17 11:40:00

You need to get away and fast.
Is this the first time he has hit you.
There must be much more other abuse going on as well.
I hope you did call Womens Aid and they are helping you.
Next you need to call CAB and ask about benefits, housing options, etc...
Shelter can also help you with housing.
Please also consider reporting the assault to the police.
Either call 101 or go to a local police station.
If someone in the street did this to you, you would report it.
This is NO different. It's abuse and assault and he needs to accept the consequences that come with what he has done.
I really hope he hasn't talked you round and you are staying.
But even if that is the case we are always here to help and advise.
It takes victims of abuse a lot of attempts before they finally get away.

springydaffs Thu 16-Mar-17 20:09:38

DP call your local Womens Aid . I think they stick to standard office hours.

For 24 hr support, try the helpline: 0808 2000 247. Sadly it can be busy during the day so try to call at night if you can. Or you could email them - they aim to get back to you within 5 days. DO BE CAREFUL to cover your tracks online

DO NOT tell him what you are planning. You need to keep quiet about eg contacting Womens Aid. It is dangerous to tell an abuser you are planning to leave.

DO get on the Freedom Programme as your earliest opportunity.


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