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Sometimes the RAGE is too much

(19 Posts)
WeAreNotInKansasAnymore Wed 15-Mar-17 08:18:42

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WeAreNotInKansasAnymore Wed 15-Mar-17 08:20:15

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Kittencatkins123 Wed 15-Mar-17 08:29:40

It sounds like you are being reasonable and he is being incredibly selfish and infuriating.

BUT this will be over in time and you will be happy with your DC!

Maybe you need to find some ways to manage your stress when you feel like this? E.g. Deep breathing, writing things down, going for a run if that's possible...

Stay strong!

Isadora2007 Wed 15-Mar-17 08:37:49

Do you need him to move to release capital for your new house?

Oh and why were the numbers afraid of 7?

Because 7 ate 9

That's my sons favourite joke. grin

Isadora2007 Wed 15-Mar-17 08:39:53

Also. Just a suggestion, but could you cease communication with him altogether? Set out your expectations or requirements one last time and explain that as he is stalling and refusing to cooperate you are no longer interested in talking to him. Then only communicate vie email so it is all
Written down. And he may stop the attention seeking stalling and move on too. Or not as he sounds a complete wanker.

Secretlife0fbees Wed 15-Mar-17 09:03:13

OP I feel your pain (mine has finally left) - this period is truly the worst bit - remember that. He'll obviously be trying to wind you up as much as he can like mine did. I found writing it all down really helped me get it out without punching him in his stupid fucking face. I still have a desire to lodge a spade in his head every time I see him (when collecting the dc) but I manage to control it since it's just a couple of quick interactions.
My life is now 1000000% better, I feel like I've won the lottery! This will be YOU soon! Don't let him bring you down, the worst is nearly over xx

Jacarandatree Wed 15-Mar-17 14:22:23

kansas I sympathise. Let the anger be directed towards the things you need to do. Use it to propel you forward. Don't let the STBxH derail you with his passive aggression. Just posting quickly to support you. Things that make me laugh -I follow "cutest animals ever" on twitter. And the YouTube video of the talking dog. Makes me laugh every time!! You WILL get through this. All things pass.

Jacarandatree Wed 15-Mar-17 14:25:16

And yes, I have found going no contact as Isadora suggested has been a revelation. Life is so much more peaceful now. Even though my STBXH tried to poke the bear via the solicitors, he can't get to me directly. And that's the way it will stay!!

TreeTop7 Wed 15-Mar-17 17:05:46

This uncertainty is horrid. I know how it feels. I would give up experiencing the summer if it meant I could fast forward to decree absolute...I'm not being facetious, I mean it. I want it finalised. I want to be notmarried.

Have a look at some of the funny threads on Mumsnet Classics. I usually end up crying with laughter.

PollytheDolly Wed 15-Mar-17 17:15:53

I am married to an ignorant, incompetent, passive, sluggish, haughty, self-important, unresisting, selfish, unasssertive, opinionated, egoistic, meek, weak, useless, malleable, suggestible, gullible, susceptible, arrogant, pompous, conceited, entitled* FUCKER.

WHY IS HE SUCH AN IDIOT?*

Say it how it is OP. Better out than in.

For you flowerswine

HebeBadb Wed 15-Mar-17 17:18:29

God help you. I used to feel this rage all the time. wine

and you'd better have another glass.

wine
chocolate

Watch a Kirsten wiig film on Netflix.

WeAreNotInKansasAnymore Sat 18-Mar-17 05:44:11

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Ecclesiastes Sat 18-Mar-17 05:54:44

Whaat?! Stop skivvying for him, stat.

Imagine you are Angela Merkel and he is Donald trump. The whole world knows he's a twat, and understands you are obliged to communicate with him.

Stay strong flowers

WeAreNotInKansasAnymore Sat 18-Mar-17 06:08:40

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Phillipa12 Sat 18-Mar-17 06:20:48

Shit yes, hes never going to move if your still doing his cooking and washing! Detach and do fuck all for him, hes an adult, you can still be perfectly amicable and reasonable, its wonderful not having to sort out another adults shit esp when they dont appreciate it, your life will get so much easier!

WeAreNotInKansasAnymore Sat 18-Mar-17 06:26:27

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Ecclesiastes Sat 18-Mar-17 08:08:25

Well done OP.

He's nothing to you. Yeah, father of your DC, blah-di-blah, but right now you need to detach as much as you can for the sake of your mental health.

Imagine he means as much to you as he does to one of us, ie fuck all. Keep focussed on your beautiful shiny future without him.

Mermaidinthesea Sat 18-Mar-17 08:11:15

Kansas I'm so sorry I'm going through the exact same thing with an ignorant, lazy tosser.
At the moment I have to take sleeping pills at night or I'd start screaming and the police would be involved.
I'm never getting married again.
I feel your pain. It will be over, we will move on. xxxxxxxx

WeAreNotInKansasAnymore Sat 18-Mar-17 11:19:45

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