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Hold me back people.... how can I refuse this...

(177 Posts)
isthismylifenow Mon 13-Mar-17 08:40:04

I know I am posting in relationships, it certainly isn't regarding a relationship, but just an example of what shit I have to deal with these days being recently single...

This is because every married man (note, friends of mine so I am friends with their wives too) seems to think I am so bloody desperate that they need to 'offer their services'. hmm

Go out for the evening with bunch of friends.

Get home to get a message from one of the husbands saying I looked great that night....confused. He has something to tell me, I should take it as a compliment although he is a bit shy to tell me. Cue me getting uncomfortable, so I reply, 'no thanks I don't want to know.'
Next day I get a message saying he has to tell me, I need my confidence boosting and continues with a message saying:

I had two erections last night. Once when you arrived and once while you were dancing. You shouldn't look down at yourself like you do. You should appreciate yourself. Just letting you know as I am your friend.'

WTAF!!! shock

My reply "don't message me again".

Fucking arsehole!

Fucks sakes, how can anybody take that as a compliment anyway. Makes me feel sick.

WeAreNotInKansasAnymore Mon 13-Mar-17 08:42:20

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

oleoleoleole Mon 13-Mar-17 08:44:40

Send it to his DP!

Nellyphants Mon 13-Mar-17 08:48:22

You're just playing hard to get aren't you? You little vixen, you know you want to!!

isthismylifenow Mon 13-Mar-17 08:48:37

We I know he is just such a charmer isn't he..... hmm

Oleo, nope I couldn't do that do my friend. His wife, yes she is one of my closest friends. Dickhead.

isthismylifenow Mon 13-Mar-17 08:49:34



isthismylifenow Mon 13-Mar-17 08:52:15

I should add in here, that I haven't heard the word 'erection' used for quite a while.... grin

I mean its a bit old fashioned now isn't it. Past experiences of unwanted attention have included words like, boner and wood.


If I don't laugh about it, the rage will reappear.....

ShotsFired Mon 13-Mar-17 08:52:30

Excuse me while I faint at such a romantic and welcomed message - "you gave me two boners" <swoon>

Next time you see him ask him (in front of his wife) if he's considered writing greetings cards for Hallmark.

Somerville Mon 13-Mar-17 08:52:43

How could you not tell one of your closest friends that her husband is betraying her?? If he's saying stuff like that to you, he's also saying it other women.

Isetan Mon 13-Mar-17 08:52:49

Of course it wasn't a compliment and never was meant as one, it was a fishing exercise (opportunist fucker). If there's a next time, tell him that sleazy duplicity isn't a tun on and if he ever sends even the remotest of sleazy vibes your way again, you will tell/ show the SMS's to his wife.

I really couldn't stomach being in the same postcode as these fuckwits, let alone the same room.

UnbornMortificado Mon 13-Mar-17 08:53:28

What a dog he is envyangry

Who the fuck thinks that kind of shit is acceptable? His poor wife and poor you having to listen to such shit.

Taylor22 Mon 13-Mar-17 08:54:20

A real friend would have the balls to tell their friend that her husband is a creep.

You have to tell her!

WeAreNotInKansasAnymore Mon 13-Mar-17 08:55:22

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Isetan Mon 13-Mar-17 08:56:41

There's a running gag in The Big Nang Theory where hunting for women with low self esteem is seen as a legitimate tactic to get laid. Unfortunately, there are some men out there who really do think that penises are a recognised treatment for female low confidence. Twats.

ChuckDaffodils Mon 13-Mar-17 08:57:16

I would definitely forward this to her asking if she knows he behaves this way towards her friends who have already expressed that they are not interested in their comments let alone this drivel.

Nellyphants Mon 13-Mar-17 08:58:13

That's it Weare, he's business propositioning you OP, that or he thinks you can't resist his man meat

isthismylifenow Mon 13-Mar-17 08:58:24


I am a real friend.... but he has put me in a terrible predicament. angry

DrScholl Mon 13-Mar-17 08:59:43

I Must be old. I don't have the mobile no of my mates husbands.

Isetan Mon 13-Mar-17 08:59:44

I probably wouldn't like knowing it but I would definitely like to know if my H was hitting on my friends. With these types, they will keep casting off in the hopes of getting a bite.

isthismylifenow Mon 13-Mar-17 09:00:27


He is a builder too...


DrScholl Mon 13-Mar-17 09:00:32

Of course you don't tell her. It's him who sent it. You'll be there to pick up the pieces. Block his no

OnionKnight Mon 13-Mar-17 09:01:55


Forward the message to your friend.

Meowstro Mon 13-Mar-17 09:02:10

There is no predicament, show her the proof. You've done nothing wrong but if he messaging you, her friend, who else is he messaging on the side? hmm

isthismylifenow Mon 13-Mar-17 09:04:01

DrS I didn't go out and ask for his number if that is what you are implying. We are on a whatsapp group for our dc sport club. I didn't even ask how he got my number as I know its from there.

Its not my fault he has access to my number and messaged me! I hardly encouraged the guy. FFS.

yorkshirepuddingandroastbeef Mon 13-Mar-17 09:05:34

"If you message me again I'll tell your wife..."

Ugh! I'm sure you are lovely but this is about him and not you. I was single in my 30s and can't tell you how many men approached me in the office. All older and all married a while.

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