Basically me and DH (3 years married, 9 years together) are on the brink of a seperation. We have a DD aged 2. He lost his job, he lied to his boss and got found out. He was sacked and basically lost his car, bonuses and a very good wage. I'm furious. I feel let down again...throughout our relationship he has lied, mostly about stupid things but also huge things like money. It resulted in us all most losing our rented home twice, baliffs entering/breaking into our home and him eventually declaring bankruptcy. Flash forward to us finding out about our pregnancy, he promised the earth. So I took a chance, got married and had our little girl. He came through on his promises and landed on his feet with the job he has just been fired from. I changed my job to accommodate him (he worked away mon-fri, and I worked weekends) this meant I could finally start learning to drive (something that has been put off for years due to the financial mess), giving me the tools to go back to college to get into nursing (something that was put on the backburner because we couldn't afford for me to go into full time education) and we were going to use his bonuses and my weekend wage to save for a deposit on a house for when he came out of bankruptcy. Our DD started dance once a week, our life was actually on the up from years and years of crap. Now this brings us back to now, he has no job. I've had to cancel my driving lessons, the savings have all most gone in paying for bills, our DD has had to cancel her dancing lessons, my future is on hold again and he is basically jobless. I'm furious, he lied. After years and years of putting up with him storming out like a child, having to call family to find him as we live in a village and I don't drive, locking me out of the house, leaving me at work without any way of getting home, putting up with his lying about money, working multiple cleaning jobs to keep our head above water until he sorted his mess out, and for what? To go back to where we started except this time we have a baby to feed. I just can't look at him. My mum says I'm wrong and he is isn't a bad guy. The same bad guy that bought me a plant for my first mother's day? Like I didn't have enough on my plate keeping a newborn alive. The guy that messed the finances up so badly that I had to fight with baliffs for over a year on my doorstep. He doesn't abuse me, has never lifted a hand to me and is the most amazing Dad you will ever meet, but as a life partner? I really feel let down. I wanted another baby but now we can't even afford one. I just don't know, I'm beside myself. When I'm sat here wondering how I'm going to pay for our little girls dinners next week, I just can't help but hate him. Is my mum right? Would I be making our situation worse by breaking up my daughter's family? I honestly don't know. Sometimes I wonder if this is the straw that broke the camels back...
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