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I can't take this

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kateshair · 12/03/2017 14:35

Right so I've been dumped but a man that I would not have though it be possible 😔.
Loved him so so so much.
I know I need to carry on but how ?
I can't beilive I'm here again !
Any advice at all would be good for me right now.
I have really never felt pain like this 😞

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TheElephantofSurprise · 12/03/2017 14:36

Keep breathing. It passes.

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kateshair · 12/03/2017 14:39

When !
It's so so awful x

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Agatha44 · 12/03/2017 16:21

In my experience, it will come in waves. You will probably lose weight, have sleepless nights, your work might be affected. Slowly but surely you will realise it has been a week later, and so on and you will have survived. Just take each day, maybe even an hour at a time.
I found family and friends to be fantastic. Books (mainly thrillers, nothing romantic/chick-lit at this stage). Exercise has also been a brilliant escape for me. Do anything that will help take your mind off the crippling pain.
I still have moments of utter sadness. This morning I cut myself and needed a plaster. I broke down in tears, there is nobody to help me anymore. I am on my own! That sucked seriously. If you need to cry, do it and let it all out!
I am still trying to 'get there' but each day does get easier! Stay strong!

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SparklyMagpie · 12/03/2017 18:17

It's so shit OP!
How long were you together?
Do you feel able to talk about why it ended (might help you)

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TreeTop7 · 13/03/2017 17:15

Unfollow (but don't delete) friends on social media who post loved-up "hubby" statuses. It makes you feel worse. Block his friends and family, because you've no need to interact with them now, and you do not want to risk your ex popping up on your timelines. Don't stay in touch with his friends and family in the hope that he'll return - it won't work. Don't be tempted to stalk him on social media either.

In the early days after my separation, I avoided places where happy families tend to go. It was Christmas, and I avoided going to family-orientated restaurants etc during that period - I couldn't bear the sight of happy couples and their kids. It's fine now though.

Do something nice for yourself every day, even if it's just a posh choc bar or an episode from a box set.

See friends, but avoid places he may be.