I've been with my BF for a few years now. We are both in our 40s, don't live together. This suits me as am divorced and a single parent and like my own space. My child is my main priority and I'm busy with a long commute etc during the week.
We sometimes do things the three of us, but normally he only stays over when DD at her Dads. We work in same building so I do see a lot of him at work. I've stayed at his lots of times and am 100% sure there's no other woman. Infact I'm his first GF. He's happy at his place reading, watching sport etc, his man cave I guess.
Anyway, as title says I've literally never met any of his friends or family (other than his colleagues but we work for same company.)
He's always there when I need him, very caring and we are very much a couple and in love.
We plan ahead to the next holiday etc but never beyond that. If we do have a rare conversation about the future and possibly living together, he talks about the future being in a couple of years.
I'm not in a hurry to live together I'm happy how we are.
But he's met my friends and family and they think it's a little wierd I've never met his.
I put it down to distance ( they don't live locally) and as I'm shy it suits me so I've never forced the issue.
I guess I'm a little worried that it means that he doesn't view me as a long term partner. I don't even think it's intentional on his part, may be on a subconscious level.
What do you think? Am I his Miss Right Now, but he's holding back incase someone better comes along? Or he's just happy with how things are?
Maybe he's ashamed of me (I'm a bit overweight and a bit socially awkward, not putting myself down. just a fact .)
He gets on well with his family but has been self sufficient for years and maybe likes to keep different aspects of his life separate?
I'm certainly not thinking about "LTB" for this, I'm happy the way things are, just wanted to see what you think.
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Never met any of his friends or family
Greycat11 · 11/03/2017 09:00
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