So my dh and I have just had a massive row.
We were talking about how I was messed around when I was pregnant by Drs being rude to me in their tone. He said 'oh they were probably off with you because of your weight'. FFS! I started crying.
I know I'm fat. I'm a size 18 on a good day. I also have pcos and despite many attempts I have always been this size thanks to bloody pcos. I was this size when he married me. He knows this. He's seen me try umpteen diets. He goes baking bloody apple crumble all the time I say I'm on a diet. Supportive much? And gets in a strop if I want to have a salad etc for dinner even if I've made him something substantial.
When I got angry he reiterated that he fancied me although actions speak louder than words and there has been very little action in that department of late. Need I say more. He's never been very romantic. I also know men and society in general don't like me because I don't fit into the be a Size 12 and under or else category.
I'm just so hurt though. I thought he loved me and accepted me as I am. When he lectured me and I stood up for myself he launched at me with do you want to get diabetes then? Why don't you try to lose weight? Do you want to continue having a bad back?
I've tried to lose weight. The diets didn't work and I can't exercise due to slipped disc.
Thanks dh for making me feel like shit.
And to make it worse he knows that tomorrow it's 2 years since my Dad died and my Mum is v ill. Like I have time to think of myself, being a Mum and trying to work and be there for my Mum. Unsympathetic git! I'm heartbroken and don't know what to do. Just hurt by his insensitivity I guess. I know I'm fat and have to something about it. I don't need him breathing down my neck about it as well. He just doesn't get how hard it is for me. He has a fab job. His parents are fit and well. And he's so slim and fit. I'm the odd one out. The fat one. Thanks for knocking me over the head with that fact dh.
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Husband tells me I'm fat and have to lose weight
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