A family member (call her Anna) recently messaged me that her husband is terminally ill. They've been together approximately 30 years; they have kids and grandkids. Obviously I'm shocked, and have been in touch several times to see how things are/can I help, etc.
Thing is that I'm also - very occasionally - in touch with Anna's brother (call him Barry). But the two of them fell out several years ago. I would not ever contact Barry regarding personal things about Anna without telling her - but should I suggest to Anna that she might want to contact Barry to let him know how ill her partner is? Or should I ask her if she wants me to contact him about this?
(Note that I would not, under any circumstances, contact Barry without Anna's say so.)
They were all friends when Anna married, but that's a long time ago.
I'm possibly musing/venting rather than asking for advice, but this is so raw that I'm really turning it over in my mind.
We are in 3 different countries, so no possibility of meeting up to talk this through.
Thanks for all your thoughts on this. Sorry it's a bit long.
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PrincessFiorimonde · 08/03/2017 21:48
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