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user1488984171 · 08/03/2017 15:30

Hi, I know this might sound a bit odd and please dont judge me because this is something i've thought about a lot and i'm keen to do....i'd like some tips on going to a sex club with my friend with benefits.
i'm a married woman with an almost catatonic sex life within my marriage and my bit on the side wants me to go to a swingers club with him. I'm keen on the idea but would love some tips and advice. what does one wear? should one drink? should one indulge with others or stay on the sidelines? Obviously safe sex is a must. I know people will judge these places as sleazy but I'd like to hear from people in the know, not just the judgemental.
I've looked on websites run by several clubs but would love to hear any hints and tips from normal women who have been to ones in the south of England and any recommendations please. I hope i dont sound like a sex-crazed woman. i'm not. i work in my local library near London and i'm just looking for a bit of spice in my life! Marion.

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Annesmyth123 · 08/03/2017 15:31

Awh Marion. Can't you just read fifty shades? Given you work in the library you could just sneak it home some night.

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Lovelilies · 08/03/2017 15:35

You may be better posting in the 'sex' topic

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Adora10 · 08/03/2017 15:37

Cheating and swinging, all in one post.

No advice Marion, I just hope your poor husband knows he's in an open marriage.

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SweetChickadee · 08/03/2017 15:38

MN isn't really the place to be looking for advice on how to cheat on your husband even more than you already are, in all honesty "Marion"

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Fontella · 08/03/2017 15:43

Marion the married librarian looking to join a swinger's club with her 'bit on the side'

There's a novel right there ....

Grin

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Bonez · 08/03/2017 15:45

If your husband is oblivious to all of this you don't deserve any advice, love.

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Out2pasture · 08/03/2017 15:54

Love how you posted in "style and beauty" as well as relationships.

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Annesmyth123 · 08/03/2017 15:57
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Annesmyth123 · 08/03/2017 15:58

That's an old thread by the way.

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Userone1 · 08/03/2017 16:03

I don't think anyone would really care what you wear. I think the idea is they want to have sex with you.

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wherearemymarbles · 08/03/2017 16:10

If its a fetish type of place just wear your librarians outfit and thick horn rimmed spectacles.
You can add to the excitement by telling them you are cuckolding your husband.

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BoringUsername17 · 08/03/2017 16:12

Vanilla Alternative near Bedford. Friendly, mixed crowd of all ages. Go on a Saturday as it's couples only. They will show you round on arrival if you say it's your first time. Top tip-expect your first visit to just be a bit of a recce to check the place out. Everyone expects newbies to be nervous and there are always other newbies there. Have fun!

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NC1234 · 08/03/2017 16:15

Drop us a message if you want. An open board isn't the best place to discuss this!

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SparklyMagpie · 08/03/2017 16:24

Is your husband aware of your bit on the side OP?

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Kr1stina · 08/03/2017 16:49

I'm loving the little details about being a non 'sex crazed ' librarian callled Marion. Because if you were an sales rep from Bedford called Julie our advice would be totally different.

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Tenshidarkangel · 08/03/2017 16:59

Daily Fail fishing?

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PoisonousSmurf · 08/03/2017 17:03

Get yourself a rabbit and DIY Grin

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category12 · 08/03/2017 17:03

I suggest you ask on a swingers website.

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bloodymaria · 08/03/2017 17:07

Hints and tips! Don't bother, maybe?

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TheNaze73 · 08/03/2017 17:24

Go for it. You only get one go at life. Your marriage sounds boring, surely you should end that first though

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TatianaLarina · 08/03/2017 17:29

Marion the lorry driver trying to lure mners into sharing swingers stories.

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Aedh · 08/03/2017 17:33

Well we always wear crotchless knickers and nipple tassels at our local swingers club.
Drinks usually include sherry or pints of snakebite.
Enjoy!

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ShoutOutToMyEx · 08/03/2017 17:36

You know what, if I wanted tips on what to wear, drink and do at a swingers' party, and I had the whole of the internet at my fingertips, the FIRST place I would go would be to a parenting website called 'Mumsnet'.

Yes. Definitely

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