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user1488984171 Wed 08-Mar-17 15:30:07

Hi, I know this might sound a bit odd and please dont judge me because this is something i've thought about a lot and i'm keen to do....i'd like some tips on going to a sex club with my friend with benefits.
i'm a married woman with an almost catatonic sex life within my marriage and my bit on the side wants me to go to a swingers club with him. I'm keen on the idea but would love some tips and advice. what does one wear? should one drink? should one indulge with others or stay on the sidelines? Obviously safe sex is a must. I know people will judge these places as sleazy but I'd like to hear from people in the know, not just the judgemental.
I've looked on websites run by several clubs but would love to hear any hints and tips from normal women who have been to ones in the south of England and any recommendations please. I hope i dont sound like a sex-crazed woman. i'm not. i work in my local library near London and i'm just looking for a bit of spice in my life! Marion.

Annesmyth123 Wed 08-Mar-17 15:31:17

Awh Marion. Can't you just read fifty shades? Given you work in the library you could just sneak it home some night.

Lovelilies Wed 08-Mar-17 15:35:04

You may be better posting in the 'sex' topic

Adora10 Wed 08-Mar-17 15:37:20

Cheating and swinging, all in one post.

No advice Marion, I just hope your poor husband knows he's in an open marriage.

SweetChickadee Wed 08-Mar-17 15:38:12

MN isn't really the place to be looking for advice on how to cheat on your husband even more than you already are, in all honesty "Marion"

Fontella Wed 08-Mar-17 15:43:12

Marion the married librarian looking to join a swinger's club with her 'bit on the side'

There's a novel right there ....

grin

Bonez Wed 08-Mar-17 15:45:54

If your husband is oblivious to all of this you don't deserve any advice, love.

Out2pasture Wed 08-Mar-17 15:54:42

Love how you posted in "style and beauty" as well as relationships.

Annesmyth123 Wed 08-Mar-17 15:57:15

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/1992360-What-does-one-wear-to-a-swingers-club Oh look. I googled.

Annesmyth123 Wed 08-Mar-17 15:58:08

That's an old thread by the way.

Userone1 Wed 08-Mar-17 16:03:21

I don't think anyone would really care what you wear. I think the idea is they want to have sex with you.

wherearemymarbles Wed 08-Mar-17 16:10:19

If its a fetish type of place just wear your librarians outfit and thick horn rimmed spectacles.
You can add to the excitement by telling them you are cuckolding your husband.

BoringUsername17 Wed 08-Mar-17 16:12:03

Vanilla Alternative near Bedford. Friendly, mixed crowd of all ages. Go on a Saturday as it's couples only. They will show you round on arrival if you say it's your first time. Top tip-expect your first visit to just be a bit of a recce to check the place out. Everyone expects newbies to be nervous and there are always other newbies there. Have fun!

NC1234 Wed 08-Mar-17 16:15:43

Drop us a message if you want. An open board isn't the best place to discuss this!

SparklyMagpie Wed 08-Mar-17 16:24:26

Is your husband aware of your bit on the side OP?

Kr1stina Wed 08-Mar-17 16:49:29

I'm loving the little details about being a non 'sex crazed ' librarian callled Marion. Because if you were an sales rep from Bedford called Julie our advice would be totally different.

Tenshidarkangel Wed 08-Mar-17 16:59:04

Daily Fail fishing?

PoisonousSmurf Wed 08-Mar-17 17:03:53

Get yourself a rabbit and DIY grin

category12 Wed 08-Mar-17 17:03:55

I suggest you ask on a swingers website.

bloodymaria Wed 08-Mar-17 17:07:52

Hints and tips! Don't bother, maybe?

TheNaze73 Wed 08-Mar-17 17:24:51

Go for it. You only get one go at life. Your marriage sounds boring, surely you should end that first though

TatianaLarina Wed 08-Mar-17 17:29:27

Marion the lorry driver trying to lure mners into sharing swingers stories.

Aedh Wed 08-Mar-17 17:33:23

Well we always wear crotchless knickers and nipple tassels at our local swingers club.
Drinks usually include sherry or pints of snakebite.
Enjoy!

ShoutOutToMyEx Wed 08-Mar-17 17:36:50

You know what, if I wanted tips on what to wear, drink and do at a swingers' party, and I had the whole of the internet at my fingertips, the FIRST place I would go would be to a parenting website called 'Mumsnet'.

Yes. Definitely

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