Been with my oh for 4 months now,long story short but his ex left him when the child was 18 months old.Ran off with his friend and moved to my home town.she demanded everything from he had to travel 2 hours everyday to see the child or he wouldn't see the child again.this ended up with him losing his job and she said he could move in with her and her new husband and his child.this meant him leaving all his family and friends behind but his child is his and always be his main priority.anyway he moved in but he got told he had to do school runs even though they have a car and he had to be home straight from work or she would kick him out.then he meet me, for the first few weeks it was horrible as I could only see him at work.one night we went for a meal and after 10 minutes of his deadline the ex started kicking off.he had had a few glasses of wine and said she needs to know I need my own life and I'll deal with her.he walked me home and he took me to bed (not sexual in anyway) we just hugged and feel asleep. by 10am the next morning the ex had put on his Facebook wall that he was missing etc and he was meant to be having the child even though it was a school day.he went back and got read the riot act.dont get me wrong the ex's husband is on his side but is stuck in the middle.he pushed his luck again and stayed over a few weeks later and he went back and she had packed all his stuff and thrown all his belongings on the front so I obviously had to let him stay at mine as he knows nobody else in my town.anyway she stopped all contact between him and his child.the ex calmed down after a few weeks and let him start taking the child out.then my son added him on fb and she stalked me as my son really likes him and put pics of us all together.she has gone and stalked me and found out that there is an age gap (12 years) and she has now stopped contact with his child again until he finishes with me.this has been the last few weeks and finally she has started letting him see his child about twice a week but for an hour.she is now demanding that his child wants overnight visits but no were near me so he has to get a place of his own.were happy living together and we both agree we don't want to change it but his child is his main priority and I stand by that .His ex is pregnant with the husband not my partner obviously as the child is now 9 so we are thinking of hanging fire until she gives birth as she will be crying out for someone to take care of there child.i just don't know what to do or support him in which way.advice please.n yes I would love to have words with the ex but I would never risk him not seeing his child again
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