I was dating a man for 4 months. We clicked straight away, he seemed really stable, reliable and made it clear he was really keen on me. The one problem was that we live quite far apart - 65 miles and about 1 1/4 hours by car (slow roads) so combined with the fact that we both have children, we could only see each other once or twice a week. I was OK with that - I looked forward to seeing him but we're both busy so I felt it was just a case of taking things as they come - not worrying about what the future may bring.
He was very open from the beginning, he told me he really liked me, talked about wanting to be long-term with me and didn't play games or do mind-f*ckery at all. He told me he loved me after 3 1/2 months. I really liked him but was more reticent. I didn't say I loved him back but I made it obvious that I was falling for him. Suddenly two weeks ago, after a lovely weekend together, he sounded distant and not so keen in a text (was behaving completely normally until this point). I pushed a bit and he said he was struggling with combining all his responsibilities along with a long-distance relationship and that it makes him sad to think we can't live near each other in the next few years so basically he doesn't want to get even more 'emotionally involved' in the relationship. I suggested we talk on the phone but he just said he was sorry but he didn't see a future when we live so far apart and can't really solve that. I have texted to tell him I'm upset that he didn't discuss it with me and that he was telling me he had really strong feelings for me one minute and then literally a few days later blanking me. I feel gutted. This isn't normal behaviour is it?
I feel like I've thrown myself at him now and come across as a desperate stalker because I've tried to engage him in a 'conversation' several times but he won't speak to me - just formal/polite responses and basically ignoring my couple of emotional texts where I've said that I'm upset that he didn't speak to me, etc. I know that most people would say just forget about him but I feel so sad to go from thinking I was in the early phase of a lovely, affectionate, close relationship to absolutely nothing. I don't know what I'm asking really - has anyone else ever had this happen to them? Is he just someone who can't face up to his emotions? He had been married for years and separated (amicably) two years ago...he's only had a couple of short flings since and said he couldn't believe he'd met someone like me (not trying to sound gorgeous here, just know he really seemed to like me and I liked him). Has this sort of thing happened to anyone else?
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Dropped suddenly by a man who said he was in love with me and feeling sad
datingdisaster41 · 07/03/2017 23:53
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