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STBXH messaged to suggest we try again

(7 Posts)
JellyBean31 Mon 06-Mar-17 10:36:30

2 1/2 years after we spilt up. A split that was my decision as a result of his EA behaviour...WTF???

The divorce is proceeding, we have the Nisi but were waiting to sort finances out before applying for the absolute. He remained in the family home and was supposed to be buying me out of my share, I had an offer via his solicitor and everything. But (according to my DS) he has been struggling to secure a lending provider.

Anyone else think that the timing of a suggestion of reconciliation is in anyway linked to finances as he sees it as the only way to avoid having to sell the house?? Or am I just super cynical? hmm

Happyinthehills Mon 06-Mar-17 10:42:21

No way are you being cynical.

why would you change your decision of over two years ago?

JellyBean31 Mon 06-Mar-17 12:07:47

Exactly happy, and he knows that. Talk about a last ditch attempt to keep the house.

SantinoRice Mon 06-Mar-17 12:15:29

He must really like that house grin

Did you reply?

GurneyGob Mon 06-Mar-17 12:36:50

Could be the house. Could be the grass is not greener without you. Much nicer having a live in housekeeper! You are right to be cynical. Sounds like you have moved on with your life.

WatchingFromTheWings Mon 06-Mar-17 12:42:35

I'd say you were spot on!

JellyBean31 Mon 06-Mar-17 14:26:19

satino I replied to say I was very happy with my life now and just want the divorce to continue to move forward.

He built the house, he loves it and I am gutted for him he has to sell it, but if he hadn't been such a bastard then he wouldn't be in this position. If I win the rollover on Wednesday, he can have the house, it's not about just getting money off him, it's about being in a position to move forward with my life and at the moment I'm not.

The DC are grown up now, but he says to the "none of this was my decision" I just tell them that no, it wasn't but I gave him chance after chance so he certainly had the power to stop it happening but didn't!

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