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user1488726663 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:37:36

Hi basically I've been allowed to fall for a man who has a gf ...started off harmless then flirting and drunken texts I feel like an idiot and I'm hurting because he allowed me to fall for him and before you judge me I can't help my feelings ..nothing has ever happened physically as I'm not that kind of person ..I don't know what to do

Rubyslippers7780 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:39:14

You are responsible for your own actions and behaviour.
Unless you want to become the ow block and delete him.

user1488726663 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:41:29

I have zero intentions of becoming the other woman at all ...I've never replied to him or encouraged anything

TwitterQueen1 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:42:20

Wow. "You've been allowed" really? So you have no free will of your own? Some external indeterminate force has allowed this? Grow up and take responsibility for the choices you make and the path you take.

AnyFucker Sun 05-Mar-17 18:44:23

Allowed by whom ?

user1488726663 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:44:27

Your miss interpreting what I'm saying ...I've ignored all advances from him ..all I've asked for is advice not this

AnyFucker Sun 05-Mar-17 18:45:25

What is "this" You are getting from MN that you didn't want ?

SloanyAnne Sun 05-Mar-17 18:46:23

So what you're saying is that he didn't tell you he has a partner?

AnyFucker Sun 05-Mar-17 18:46:37

And it isn't possible to flirt with someone who isn't replying

Didn't you say you have never replied ?

user1488726663 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:46:51

Negativity ...I've done nothing wrong and has absolutely zero intentions of acting on anything at all

user1488726663 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:47:42

No I was never told he had a gf till recently

AnyFucker Sun 05-Mar-17 18:48:11

How has he been "flirting" then. With himself ?

user1488726663 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:48:53

Yes I did flirt until he confessed he had a gf then I stopped

hellsbellsmelons Sun 05-Mar-17 18:50:28

So how have you fallen for him?
If you've never replied you've not conversed at all so I don't understand how.
Block and delete him.
Job done.

user1488726663 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:51:40

Meaning I've not replied since he confessed he had a gf ...

AnyFucker Sun 05-Mar-17 18:52:30

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

SloanyAnne Sun 05-Mar-17 18:54:29

So. You and he started a flirty relationship. You've developed feelings for him. You've found out he has a partner and have put a stop to any contact.
You're asking for help in getting past the feelings you have for him because you have no intention of having a relationship with him because he has a partner.
Is that right?

user1488726663 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:54:34


user1488726663 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:55:02

Yes that is it ...

CoffeeDiamonds Sun 05-Mar-17 18:57:05

He's an absolute twat.

He was coming on to you, and cheating on his GF.

Surely you don't still have feelings for the lying bastard?

TwitterQueen1 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:57:38

"You weren't told he had a girlfriend". Again op, you are refusing to take any personal responsibility.

What advice do you want exactly?

tallwivglasses Sun 05-Mar-17 18:58:45

I think your getting harsh replies because you've dripfed a bit OP and used some wording that maybe posters have misinterpreted. If I'm right, you're hurting big time. You were falling for him headfirst and now he's broken your heart. But you have to toughen up - block, delete and go no contact. Get busy with friends/hobbies. Be kind to yourself.

user1488726663 Sun 05-Mar-17 18:59:14

I agree he is just that !!! I flirted and got to like someone who I believed and told was single

BubblingUp Sun 05-Mar-17 18:59:20

So, he led you on, not telling you he already had a gf. Now you know and you are not getting involved. That's good! If possible over time, trade your hurt in for anger, followed by indifference.

user1488726663 Sun 05-Mar-17 19:00:40

I'm not good with wording at all ...I'm hurt and anger ...just feel like an idiot and with some of the replies I feel more of an idiot

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