Talk

Advanced search

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

Hell Hath No Fury ..... support thread.

(255 Posts)
HHNF Sun 05-Mar-17 18:09:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HHNF Sun 05-Mar-17 20:26:05

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

jemimarose Sun 05-Mar-17 20:36:47

Me too. She was my best friend. Now I know how much she must have hated me. Divorcing my dh at the moment. Wondering if she knows as I cut off all contact.

Are you still with your 'dh?'

HHNF Sun 05-Mar-17 20:47:22

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

garlicandsapphire Sun 05-Mar-17 20:57:44

They're bitches. I know it. And one day I will tell about my act of revenge - a dish served very very cold.

HHNF Sun 05-Mar-17 21:01:43

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

painsucks Sun 05-Mar-17 21:02:59

I obsess over ow too. Doesn't help that dh still works with her and sees her everyday. I am not a hateful person but I bloody hate her. Still with dh. Trying to work it out. Still very angry at him. Can't believe the pain you must of felt being your best friend. Big hugs.

HHNF Sun 05-Mar-17 21:06:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

flamingnoravera Sun 05-Mar-17 21:14:56

I'm nearly 20 years on and I still would not piss on her if she was on fire. My cold revenge is that her own son comes to mine for food whenever my son is home, he hates her cooking and he hates my ex (his sf) but he likes me.

My son tells me his dad will probably leave her when their last d leaves school.

I see her in the park sometimes and I still feel sick to my stomach when I see her.

SweetieBaby Sun 05-Mar-17 21:41:12

I swing between plotting how to "out" the OW to her husband, just to see her perfect little life implode and let her wonder every day for the rest of her life wether today will be the day that I do it.

Mollymollymandy123 Sun 05-Mar-17 21:55:08

I've spent a great deal of time over the past 18 months imaging how I could get my revenge on ow. It took a long time for it to dawn on me- I can't. There's nothing I can do. I have to accept it & move on. What can I do? She has no husband who i can tell. What could I do to make her realise the damage she has done? Nothing -because she does not care. If I were to seek revenge I would probably come off the worst. Yes, it's a difficult pill to swallow but I am powerless.

garlicandsapphire Sun 05-Mar-17 22:09:37

The 25 yr old my XH (45) had an affair with is now married to an over 65 yr old guy who is much more eminent than my X in the same field. She is around 33... ambitious little cow eh?

Apart from the emails telling her I was going to be visiting her place of work the next week I also did something very subtle.... to her CV that I found on his computer.... some very funny amendments... maybe they never saw the light of day or maybe one day he sent it to someone to help her out applying for a job!

HHNF Sun 05-Mar-17 22:28:04

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HHNF Sun 05-Mar-17 22:28:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HappyJanuary Sun 05-Mar-17 22:31:58

I'm obsessed too. I know it's unhealthy but I feel how I feel. I'm powerless because there's nothing I can do without losing my dignity and moral high ground, so I fantasise instead. I'm aware of the things she says about me, and suspect the feeling is mutual. But my god the realisation every single day that he threw away his whole life, making all of us unhappy - including himself - so he could fuck this awful, unattractive, serial cheating, morally bankrupt bag.

HHNF Sun 05-Mar-17 22:39:31

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Mollymollymandy123 Sun 05-Mar-17 22:48:39

Suggestions?
Tar & feather?
Stalks? . .

Mollymollymandy123 Sun 05-Mar-17 23:15:53

Personally I would've liked to pay her an unexpected visit donning a scream mask & brandishing a samurai sword but she would probably curl her lip & shrug her shoulders. She doesn't give a shiny s"*@t*!

garlicandsapphire Sun 05-Mar-17 23:27:02

I hope I frightened her with the threats of a visit but who knows? At 25 I would have regarded a 45 yr old married man with two small kids a total sleazebag and would've had more solidarity with the woman he was planing to cheat on.

Yup he's a well X.

HHNF Mon 06-Mar-17 07:30:05

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

incredibule Mon 06-Mar-17 07:55:18

Behave how you want. The other 2 players have lost any right to judge you, and you should call the shots from now on.

SweetieBaby Mon 06-Mar-17 08:11:46

My heart tells me to do one thing, my head another.

I just want to feel better but I don't know what to do to make that happen.

I could tell her husband. They run a family business with her parents and she told me that everything would collapse if I told them. It's so tempting to do it but ultimately would it make me feel better? I just don't know. I'm not a spiteful person by nature and I fear I would just end up feeling guilty for the pain that I had caused.

God, this is just all so fucked up. They don't realise the repercussions when they start these things.

I just hope that eventually she will get what is coming to her. It's the only way I can carry on - believing what goes around comes around.

HHNF Mon 06-Mar-17 21:35:35

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Hobbitwife001 Mon 06-Mar-17 22:37:26

I'd like to join in for a ragefest against my particular ow as well. I'm 18 months on from divorcing the bastard, and I still hate them both with a passion.
She was a friend as well, we used to socialise together, she knew we had been married for 27 years and had a son on the asd spectrum. But she went after my chump of a husband and stroked his ego, along with his genitals, and that was the end of our marriage.

I've never had the chance to confront her and tell her what I think of her, I've kept the moral high ground, and stayed away, but I so wish I could. Maybe it would help me, but I doubt it tbh, after all, she probably doesn't care anyway.

janaus Tue 07-Mar-17 02:41:54

I have obsessed about going round there and destroying her one rose in the front yard.

Another time, I saw her measuring her gates with a broken, bent, tape measure. For some stupid reason , I went out and bought a cheap 3 metre tape measure, only cost a couple of dollars, and went around at night, and threw it into her front yard near the gate.

Mind games, but obsessive and ridiculous.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now