Since he discarded me in January pieces of the jigsaw have gradually fallen into place. I was bored and my hairdresser said get out there and meet guys (though I'm not ready) So out of curiosity I went onto Tinder, because that is where she met her partner and she is soon to be married. I honestly didn't like it so closed it down, but I had this lightbulb moment. It was going to search through my FB groups and look at friends, and friends of friends for matches, so there it is, I realised that is how he met the OW. I knew there was a FB link somewhere but not directly. There is no way they met through his work, I'm 100% sure of that. Approx 18 months ago he told me a story about how he knew someone who's partner was found out to be on Tinder, in fact he mentioned it again a few months later. And so it fell into place. More narcissist behaviour, projecting, wanting a reaction from me because all along that's what he was doing. So This is where he was stalking out his narcissistic supply.
This has been such a revelation, his sister basically told me his father was the same and that they now believed he would never settle down.
The hardest part of this is realising my life with him was one big lie. The OW will have no idea, he will have lied about his past to her without a doubt, he got himself transferred from one office to another 60 miles from here, a new hunting ground for him where people don't know his past nor will she. In a few months he will be looking again while she is in the dark. I'm thanking my lucky stars that he is gone for good now and I can start my life over.
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The lightbulb moment where it fits together!
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MyLifeInColour · 04/03/2017 21:16
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