Hi guys,
I've namechanhed as this is identifying to those I've spoken to. I'm going mad trying to think and need help. I know my situation is not that bad compared to others but would hate to miss the warning signs and then have one of those awful stories in 10 years time.
Backstory;
At the start of our relationship my bf was messaging his ex. I saw the messages later and we had a massive row - I forgave him because it had been at the start of our relationship.
He's a jealous guy, especially if my ex whom I remained friends with - this has improved a lot and we rarely argue about this now.
More recently, I admitted to me that he had been flirting with another woman in a forum and when she found out about me (via social media) she threatened (apparently in a joking manner) to tell me. He decided to tell me so the story wouldn't be exaggerated and he maintains it was harmless 'banter'. After a row I forgave him because I believed it was just banter.
Today;
Events led to me having his phone and I noticed that (hidden away) he had two apps (both known for hooking up). Both his profiles had him listed as single and looking for women. I could almost forgive this or believe his excuse of "I was bored and wanted to check it out, but the fact that he messaged women on those sites bothers me. He claims he had no intention of taking it further. I'll never know.
I also found that he had continued talking to the ex who we had a row about earlier on (and he had deleted her number and sworn not to talk to her).
He maintains all the above happened because he was bored and was checking new things out and meant nothing. Says he's sorry and he loves me. I want to believe it but I don't. Do you ?
I can only imagine how many typos are here ; I apologise. I'm also sorry for the length.
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Do I believe him? Do you?
Cinelove · 04/03/2017 02:21
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