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Not even a card!!!

(8 Posts)
Lifeisabloodysoap Wed 01-Mar-17 22:52:58

Sorry just need a rant! So today is my daughters first birthday. She never even received a card from any of ex's family! I'm annoyed and angry I mean not even a text or anything it's not my daughters fault our relationship ended why are people so horrible! I had asked them to write her a letter that I am putting In a box for her for when she turns 18 and not one of them done it. Sorry I just needed a rant!

scoobydoo1971 Wed 01-Mar-17 23:02:56

While it is sad for you as a mother, your child is too young to notice. As she gets older and understands a bit more, I am sure you can put the family situation in a context. You have obviously tried hard for your daughter but there is nothing you can do about the extended family and if they are that dis-interested then would you really want their inconsistent input in your child's life anyway? Waste of energy to get upset about them if they do not show an interest. Just treasure what you have, a lovely happy child!

Lifeisabloodysoap Wed 01-Mar-17 23:08:17

Scooby that's the thing her grandparents came up last week to see her and have started having kinda regular contact.

It's just very hurtful and annoying! We had a beautiful day with me her and her brother maybe I just expect to much of people smile

TheaSaxby Wed 01-Mar-17 23:46:45

Might they have sent cards to ex address? That's what happens with my ex as his family like to pretend I don't exist!

abbsisspartacus Thu 02-Mar-17 06:54:31

My dd turned 16 last year her father and his family have her personal email address and nothing same deal at Christmas the reason being she is a real person with real feelings who won't accept I'm totally responsible for his lack of contact she was there she saw it all and she isn't stupid they would just prefer it if she accepted there version of events and ran to them with open arms!

DownTownAbbey Thu 02-Mar-17 07:04:50

My ex's family don't send my DS cards or presents because they do it all again at 'granny 's' house. He gets Father Christmas visit him at home and granny's too. Boiled my piss for a couple of years because they clearly wanted a family occasion that involved my DS but not me (even though ex was the cheating twunt). Now I just let them get on with it. Could ex be having his own first birthday celebrations?

Happybunny19 Thu 02-Mar-17 13:36:23

If the grandparents are now having contact perhaps they are planning to give her a card and present when they see her next.

Adora10 Thu 02-Mar-17 13:43:57

I understand your hurt, it's not nice but perhaps they will indeed treat her next time they see her?

Happy Birthday little one bear

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