Hi all - just wondered if anyone else feels like this?
At school, I was shy, geeky, frizzy and spotty. I had a few friends/allies but was so, so quiet and socially awkward.
Fast forward 15 years and, after lots of hard work, I'm gregarious, much MUCH sleeker and more stylish and have a close group of friends (those who I met from 18 yrs old onwards) a loving DP, a job I adore and a lovely home. I work hard at my friendships and like to think I'm a nice, warm person.
However, on the odd occasion I meet up with school friends (an increasing rarity as I do try to avoid them, it happens mostly at weddings) it feels like they don't realise I'm not the awkward, socially inept 15 year old I used to be. They all yammer on about themselves, fail to make any real effort to find out what I'm up to though occasionally they will say "oh, but you're so PRETTY! How did that HAPPEN?" and similar in a slightly patronising way.
I'm aware that what they think shouldn't matter, this is a ridiculously small issue and I'm seeing them less as they don't make me feel good about myself but does anyone else feel/get seen as the person they used to be and not the person they are now? It is just frustrating - I try to stop it irritating me but relatively little success so far.
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NessieArd · 01/03/2017 17:22
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