Anyone else do this? Over the years of my marriage I have avoided discussing lots of issues with my husband because I don't have the energy to deal with his reaction. I'm not just like it with my husband I'm like it with others too. When I left home at 18 I spent weeks worrying about how I would break it to my Mum and kept trying to imagine the conversation and I never actually told my Mum until my boyfriend came to collect my belongings so it ended up being a quick "Bye Mum I'm moving out today!"
Last year I decided that I was going to be brave and confront issues rather than avoiding subjects. I told dh that I had spent years bottling up my emotions and was no longer prepared to do this. From dh's point of view this resulted in him feeling "got at" and he felt that I just wanted to argue all the time.
I now feel like I'm back at square one and just feel weighted down. There are a couple of things that I want to tell dh about, nothing significant just a couple of social events that I have in the diary but I know that he will over react and I just don't have the energy to deal with this so what do I do? Do I cancel my plans to keep the peace? Do I walk on eggshells and then spend the next month arguing because I've annoyed him or do I tell him to "Fuck Off"?!
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Burying your head in the sand to avoid confronting issues.
ArabellaArmstrong · 28/02/2017 21:10
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