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Men and their height.(109 Posts)
I understand why men are self-conscious about their height. There are enough threads on MN where women say they wouldn't date someone shorter them, shorter than 6 foot or shorter than some other arbitrary marker.
Personally, I don't care. If Peter Dinklage wants to leave his wife and ask me out for a date, I'm entirely up for that.
But why LIE? That's the bit that baffles me. We can tell, you know. You could lie about your weight. People carry their weight differently. People don't carry their height differently. It's literally how many cms the top of your head is from the ground.
Saw a lovely FWB tonight. He's the same height as me. I'm 5'6. Whereas apparently he's 5'9 and a half. I did splutter "Bollocks you are. Maybe on your online dating profile" when he said it.
Ha. Makes me think of my DH profile, which said he was 6ft. I am 5 ft 2, so that sounded fine for me. Well, I turned up for our first date, only to meet a Giant! He really did think he was 6ft tall....he's almost 6ft 4, with a 48 inch chest. I was not disappointed, I love tall men....
The date before him had used a fake picture - he turned up with the wrong fucking face! Now that's brazen!
It's so that they dont get filtered out. A lot of women filter OKD results using 'over 5'10" or over 6' tall and men know this so they lie in the hope of meeting you and charming you.
Ive heard similar from men when they set their filter to 'slim' or 'petite' a curvy larger woman shows up in the hope that the man will be bowled over enough to look past her weight.
I always set my filter to '5'11" in the hope of weeding out the shorter men. It's not fair but then Im not attracted to men under 5'10" so why waste their time. If I was tiny I might reconsider but Im 5'6" and like heels.
Aw, Husky, it sounds like your giant DH hadn't given it much thought. Whereas someone who maintains that they're 5 foot 9 (and a half!) when they're a good couple of inches shorter than that has clearly given it too much thought.
Or maybe he had a massive afro last time he measured his height.
That's exactly it womanwithoutasong. So if you arranged a date with a supposedly 5'11 guy who was obviously only an inch taller than you when you met, you're going to be put off immediately.
I am a big, fat lady. I am open about that on my online dating profile. I have a full length picture and everything. If I pretended to be a size 8 waifling, I would expect some disappointed looks when I turned up for the first date.
I like men who are 5'6 - 5'10. My dad was 6'2 and so I always feel like I'm with my dad if a man is tall.
I like shorter men.
I agree, it's a crazy thing to lie about, because give or take 2 inches, it's easy to see you're lying.
I'm one of those who likes tall men and had a 6 ft minimum height requirement for a DH. Being older and wiser, I now realise there are so many more important things, although height would still matter to me if I was on the look for a new man.
The average British man is 5'10". The average British woman is 5'5". A five inch difference is surely enough. Why do so many women insist a man must be at least two inches taller than average?
at the afro.
Poor women are conditioned to a degree to want a tall man. It's a desirable trait in a man, like broad shoulders and a square jaw. Women like to feel (generally) smaller than a man. A lot of women wear heels so a five inch 'barefoot' difference is wiped out by heels.
Ive been with smaller men and just didnt enjoy the physical element; it felt like I was huge. My last boyfriend was 6' tall and played rugby. I cant tell you what a turn on it was to have to stand on tiptoe to kiss him and how it made me feel when he would pick me up and carry me like I weighed nothing (10 stone in actual fact). I remember the first time we kissed - it was like being pushed against a 6ft wall of hot hard muscle. It made me literally swoon.
So for me its about attraction pure and simple.
I'm 5'9 and know quite a few men who insist they are in fact 5'9 when they are much shorter than me. A friend of mine who is about my height tried online dating and gave up just because every man she met was much shorter than they claimed. I dont know why men lie about it, I find it really strange, but I also find it strange when short women insist they only want a man 6ft or over. Does is matter if a man is 5'10 and could they tell the difference? My 6'4 brother and my 6'6 ex both just seem very tall to me.
Like Husky, my DP also underestimated his own height. He hadn't been measured since he was at school and guessed his height to be 6ft because "doors are 6ft 2 and that's a couple of inches or so above my head."
...."Errr, no my beloved, UK doors are normally 6ft 6ins high, which means you are about 6ft 2 or 6ft 3!" I'm not complaining, though, bless him!
For every one that underestimates, I reckon there are probably 10 times that who overestimate - maybe more!
Well my DH is a mere 5'9 but as I'm
5'1 he's tall.
My exH was 6'2 as is our son and our DD isn't far off so I'm am the shortarse in all respects.
But Peter Dinklage. I don't care how short he is.....
I'm 6ft 2", I've dated a guy taller than me once! Sure they're hot but in very short supply
that wasn't intentional but made me smile when I read it back two of the guys taller than me I know are my brothers, boak, and both are gay .
I think if more women were in my situation they'd learn to move on and look at personality, if a guy can make me feel special, make me laugh, and well you can guess then I'm happy to give them a chance.
As things stand I'd love to go on a date with Peter Dinklage, he has such a fabulous sense of humour and seems such a lovely person!
I don't like tall men. The idea of being with someone who could literally sweep me off my feet kinda freaks me out. I like to be able to look 'em in the eyes
DH has a slightly different take on the issue. He is 5ft8, and is convinced that is the UK average height for men. I looked it up once to show him but I think he has conveniently forgotten.
Who the fuck is this Peter Dinklage.
I dated a guy who was the same height as me (5' 11") and it caused SO many problems. I didn't mind but he hated it. I was never allowed to wear heels.
DH is 6'4" which is nice. My DBro is 6'5" and DDad was 6'3" or so - we grow 'em tall over here.
But you really want to see some tall people, head for The Netherlands. They are GIANTS.
Just googled. I see what you all mean
As a 5'11" woman, I know the struggle.
On a selfish note, all the shorter women who are filtering for men over six foot can feck off!
I agree sometimes it's driven by filters.
My fiancé and I met on match and he was 2 years older than my age filter. But he led with "I'm 2 years older than your range but I loved your profile so I thought I'd say hello anyway..." I'm glad he did!
He's actually quite short (though I'm shorter) and I loved my two previous 6ft 3" men, physically. He makes up for it, but I do miss that bulk! (and for me it is bulk - I once dated a 6ft 5" beanpole and didn't like it at all)
I would consider 5ft 10" lying to be 6ft just annoying. But if a 5ft 6" pretended to be 5ft 8", I'd have more sympathy.
I'm a short arse, I've never lied about it but I understand why some men do, just like some women who lie about their weight etc.
Luckily my wife is a short arse too but when she wears heels I do feel like Tom Cruise
I'm 6'0" but I often forget I'm a bit taller than average. I'm always surprised when I'm on the tube or a bus or something and realise most of the other blokes come up to my eyebrows or lower. (I'm also built on an entirely different scale from most blokes so that things like work team photos are always a bit distressing - my shoulders are almost literally twice the width of some of the people I work with, yet in my head I'm a Depp-like teenager still.)
So yeah, I think many big blokes don't think of themselves as big. (I'm always a bit surprised to discover I'm an adult.) Whereas I suppose smaller guys are made to feel a bit self-conscious about their height and so are hyper-aware, and thus more likely to tell fibs.
Really never understood the female obsession for tall men. I have a friend who is only 5,2 and she won't dare anyone under 6 foot. It's crazy!
I've dated men over 6 foot and one of my exs was only 5,6. I really don't see the difference tbh. Then again I'm only 5,4 myself and I like my men on the fragile, reedy side
My fiancé is 5,7 and he's perfect at that height. In fact I often joke I wouldn't want him taller. He's so pretty and I suspect if he was taller I'd be beating all those "I need a man to be tall" women off with a stick!
My boyfriend put his height in centimetres so I didn't really take it in, just knew he was taller than me! I'd previously gone for really tall guys and he isn't really tall but he's gorgeous and lovely.
Quite a few tall guys I met while dating knew it was a cache and were kind of cocky because of it. Now I prefer smaller and perfectly formed
womanwithout, I understand why women like men to be taller than they are. I just don't understand why a five inch difference wouldn't be enough for anyone (how high are your heels??). Or why it's not enough that he's comfortably taller than you, but has to be significantly taller than the national average. I sometimes see very petite women, hovering around five foot or under, and they insist that a man still has to absolutely tower over them at six feet bare minimum. What on earth?
Incidentally, I once met a bodybuilder who stood at 5'4" and could still easily pick me up and swing me round. And one of the best boyfriends I ever had was a couple of inches shorter than I was. It didn't matter when we were lying down, that's all I'll say.
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