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My Dh died this morning and I don't know how to go on

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JuanPotatoTwo · 27/02/2017 19:18

But I will because I have to, because I have 4 incredible dc he loved.

I'm so so sad, didn't see it coming this time. Been lots of occasions in the past when we thought we'd lose him but he fought back and pulled through. Too much for him this time. One month today we would have been married 24 years.

Being self indulgent posting but I'm trying to put on brave front for dc even though 3 of them are adult and trying to be brave for me. We all loved him so much.

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NomDePlumeReloaded · 27/02/2017 19:20

juan Flowers. Have you got a support network around you?

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Isadora2007 · 27/02/2017 19:20

I'm
So sorry for your loss. I'm sure there will be someone along with more help and advice. But I'm just very very sorry to hear your news.

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LookImAHooman · 27/02/2017 19:20

Bloody hell, that's not self-indulgent. I hope you've got a solid support network in real life. I can't imagine what you're going through; I'm so sorry. Flowers

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wobblywonderwoman · 27/02/2017 19:20

Oh Juan.. May he rest in peace.

Flowers what a tragic loss to suffer :(
You were together such a long time. Have you someone there tonight to look after you ?

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StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 27/02/2017 19:20

Oh Juan I am so sorry, you must be in shock Flowers

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RJnomore1 · 27/02/2017 19:21

Oh Juan

I so so sorry. I don't have a clue what to say but if you need listened to then I am here.

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 27/02/2017 19:21

So very sorry Juan.

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SouthWestmom · 27/02/2017 19:21

OMg what happened? (If you are okay to talk). It's such a lost feeling when someone you cared for, and about, dies. I'm so sorry you are facing this.

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ImperialBlether · 27/02/2017 19:21

Flowers

What a terrible shock for you all.

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Leeds2 · 27/02/2017 19:21

I'm so sorry, Juan.

May your husband rest in peace.

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SookiesSocks · 27/02/2017 19:21

You are not being self indulgent.

I am so sorry.

Post as much or as little as you need to.

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ProzacAndWinePlease · 27/02/2017 19:22

I'm so very sorry Flowers

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Veterinari · 27/02/2017 19:22

Hang in there Juan Flowers
Take solace in your wonderful DC.

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jackieeee · 27/02/2017 19:22

Thinking of you juan FlowersFlowers

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Whycantiloseweight · 27/02/2017 19:22

Flowers I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't begin to imagine how hard this must be for you x

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ShelaghTurner · 27/02/2017 19:22

I'm so sorry Juan. Love and prayers to you and your family Flowers

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itsranningtoday · 27/02/2017 19:23

I am so sorry love Flowers

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DuggeeHugs · 27/02/2017 19:23

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

I don't have the right words for you but didn't want to read and run

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Fairybella · 27/02/2017 19:23

I'm so sorry this happened to you and your family xx

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DoodleCat · 27/02/2017 19:23

So sorry for your loss. Can't say anything that will help but wanted to post to show support. Xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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TheCrowFromBelow · 27/02/2017 19:23

Flowers
I'm so sorry for your loss juan it isn't self indulgent to grieve for people we love. Your DCs, whatever age, will understand that. Have you got people near you?
Sending you a massive (((hug))).

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MrFMercury · 27/02/2017 19:23

Sending you a lot of love x

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PuntCuffin · 27/02/2017 19:24

Flowers I am so sorry.
I don't know your story but there is nothing self-indulgent about feeling like you don't know how to cope or just posting so you feel less alone.
Do whatever you need to do to make it hurt less. Tell us about him (or not). Shout, scream, cry, it doesn't matter, if it helps.

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Breezy1985 · 27/02/2017 19:24

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

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beggin4mercy · 27/02/2017 19:24

Oh my lovely that is so sad. This is a good place to let it all out.

If you feel like telling more, do. It might help you.

But that's your call. Tell us about him, how old he was, and so on. If you feel up to it. I'm sure he was a lovely man/husband/dad/friend and will be sadly missed by everyone.

Have you got anyone with you tonight?

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